"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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loverboy2003

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was workin with this girl for awhile and really liked her she kinda knew it and played some mind games back and forth, some other female friends told be she is just screwin with me till i make the move, well i never did and now i no longer work with her, i e mailed her last weekend and she said she wanted t keep in touch and a few of us went out that week end anyways during our e mailin back and forth she gave me her # and told me to give her a call, well i didn't need to since i just met her where we were all goin but its been about a week now since i have last talked to her, i have e mailed her but she told me she never read her e mail so SHOULD I JUST CALL HER UP, WOULD THAT BE ALRIGHT OR WOULD THAT KINDA BE WIERD SINCE I HAVEN'T TALKED TO HER IN AWHILE? AND IF I DO WOULD THAT SEEM NEEDY AND LIKE I AM DESPERATE??
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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squirrels

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"Just call her up?" Not just to talk, no.

But she gave you her number for a reason. ;) ;)

It's waiting to happen. Arrange it.
 

OddTech

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You are confusing an invitation to get together, or even a simple phone call, with desperation.

Desperation is when you become emotionally afflicted with the situation....if she said no, then you start wailing in hurt. If she said yes, then you get an emotional "high." That's desperate. If you don't let the situation get out of hand, then you're doing fine.

Again, let me say this again, there is NOTHING WRONG with wanting a date with a girl. That is your privilege as a MAN. Women (to this day) still expect a man to initiate the move. Good luck and have fun man.
 

DankNuggs

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geez....call, its not about desperation, its about your INACTION. She's been waiting for you to get off your @ss for a while now...Quit freaking out, provided you don't stalk her or hound her with phonecalls, you won't sound desperate....
 

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Ya i guess i see your guys point i have been Over compilcating and over thinking this situation obviously she gave me her number for a reason if she didn't want me to call she would have never gave it to me in the first place, like its not even like i asked for it, she wanted to keep in touch and hang out that weekend(last weekend) then she said well here's my # call me later i never did call her, just met her there, but i guess i still have her # and i should give her a call
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pimp-sicle

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I think the reason he was acting or feeling desperate is because he said he e-mailed her back again and she hadn't responsed yet.

Loverboy: **** e-mail!!! If she gave you her number she's interested. Its so much easier to seduce a girl on the phone then through e-mail. Call her up and set up a get together. If she doesn't pick up leave a message. Don't make the situation hard when its so simple.



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