To be or not to be..such is the question

[JohnChops]

Hello gents,
So there is that old saying here that girls always come back, sooner or later (most of the time it is later). Recently, my oneitis (one who drove me to this site in 2011, jeeez its been long!) has been trying to contact me recently and get in good with me or whatever her motifs are. For 3 days straight she constantly texted me, snapchatted me,then tagged me in instagram posts. Then nothing for a few days and now just recently the same thing is slowly starting to happen.

I dont resent her anymore or feel any distress when I talk to her now, shes just a girl, ive railed a lot since she messed me up (or i messed myself up) . She kept saying how she wants to come to my competition in december and she wants me to go out with her for her birthday in two weeks. And she also wants to come with me to my friends show tomorrow.

Eh, just throwing up this thread to get an opinion as to if I should let her back in or not. I am leaning towards not, but then there is that 1% chance I might.

Also the title has nothing to do with this thread, Ive just been reading so much Shakespeare its getting to my head lol. :rockon:

I guess if it makes a difference I have 3 other girls, besides her, that I am "talking to" but with school/work/other obligations/future I dont have much time to persue them as I should be.

 

[TheCWord]

Hey John, you're an incredibly smart guy and your game's on point so I'm not here to give you any advice. I'm more just curious how you've handled this chick popping back into your life... As in, you say she was aggressively contacting you for three days straight and it seems like you've riled her up even more since. Did you ignore her texts or just do the standard taking hours to respond kind of thing?

I remember how good it felt when I flipped my oneitis on her head and got her chasing me, so it'd be fun to hear how you've done it. Will also look forward to seeing what you choose to do next!

 

[JohnChops]

Hey John, you're an incredibly smart guy and your game's on point so I'm not here to give you any advice. I'm more just curious how you've handled this chick popping back into your life... As in, you say she was aggressively contacting you for three days straight and it seems like you've riled her up even more since. Did you ignore her texts or just do the standard taking hours to respond kind of thing?

I remember how good it felt when I flipped my oneitis on her head and got her chasing me, so it'd be fun to hear how you've done it. Will also look forward to seeing what you choose to do next!

such kind words, thanks man

I took a long time to respond, not because I chose to , but because I was busy with other things in my life so I simply responded when I was near my phone. Sometimes it was instant, sometimes as long as 5 hours. Then when she went silent on me, I simply didn't do a thing (versus the whole texting her first to get a new convo going, i wasnt going to do that crap). She asked me a bunch of questions and I just responded like she was just another person I was talking to, nothing special at all. no smiley face or emojis, or any of that fluff.

Flipping the script is always a fun thing, but I've been on both sides of being fvcked with. Shes done it to me, the worst, and I've done it to other girls. To be honest, I'm not in the mood to play anymore of these games.

If she starts chasing me, seems like she has already, then I think im going to let her and I may or may not act upon it.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Damn, you and I are in similar spots. I'm close to your age, and also have a oneitius from 2011 that just started to try and come around more.

If you can try to steer clear from interacting with her on social media/texts. Females try to use their social media to mindf**k guys, and it's best to just stay away from it. Don't worry too much about her taking awhile to respond. It could be her trying to s**t test.

See how she acts around you at your friends show tomorrow, and if you have a chance to do anything you should try. If not you might regret it. The good thing about an old oneitius coming around again is they can tell a difference in your experience/confidence level, and seem more attracted because of it.

Good luck with everything, and let us know how it plays out.

 

[sylvester the cat]

cant wait for my oneitis to get back in touch. she too brought me here so will be divine justice when she does. she won't know what hit her up.

 

[JohnChops]

cant wait for my oneitis to get back in touch. she too brought me here so will be divine justice when she does. she won't know what hit her up.

holding a bit of a grudge there, arent we? Take it easy man, shes just a girl. Most of the oneitis cases are caused by us anyway, overthinking in our own head. However, i do believe that some girls are just she-devils and should be steered clear from. Not sure of your situation though.

 

[thunder_god]

Funny you should make a thread about oneitis'es coming back. My oneitis drove me to this site. I've been dealing with my oneitis reaching out to me these past few months but I blew her off these past few weeks multiple times. ***** was stringing me along and made me jump through hoops and walls keeping me as the boyfriend/provider/ backup option. I found out in late July that she screwed one of my classmates back in late May on her trip to Cuba. That $hit really stung, especially knowing that I am ten times the man that guy was. ***** tried to keep it a secret when she tried to reach out back to me in June after I walked away in April. After that I got really disgusted with her. Saw her grind with three guys including that guy that she hooked up with at a nightclub event that my classmates organized. She then proceeded to try and grind with me after seeing me dance with another girl. I quickly blew her off and she looked depressed and sad that night. I saw her with that guy who she hooked up with later in the night, and he tried to kiss her and as soon as she saw me walk by, she turned away and didn't kiss him. A few weeks later, I'm at a social event at a pub and she sees me and starts waving at me, I just wave back and ignore her after that. Later that night, as I walked by the bar, I saw her staring at me while sitting beside that guy. Again I ignored her and deleted her number. Last week I received a phone call from some random number while working out and then found out it was her. I told her I was busy working out and that I would call her back, which I didn't intend to do lol. She calls me the next day while I'm busy and I end up missing her call as my phone was in my jacket and I wasn't wearing it. She texts me immediately saying 'thunder_god! wtf, your not available". Then I call her 2 hours later to see what all the fuss was about. Turns out she is failing in school and has to repeat the school year because of "recent things but won't tell me what" and will end up being in my class again. I quickly end the phone call and then block her number and unfriend her on facebook. Next day, I receive 6 phone calls within a span of 12 minutes from her. Since I had blocked her, I didn't see her calls until yesterday when I was looking at my phone logs.

Anyways **** her! ***** was playing hard to get and games with me. She tried to act all decent and innocent in front of me, but behind my back was a ****ing slut. She didn't do what was necessary for us to be together so I walked away. Now she's regretting her decision, and I'm going to let her suffer for it. I could potentially **** her now, but frankly I'm disgusted by her and don't want anything to do with her after finding out about her secret activities. Not sure if I should tell her to f off if she tries to reach out to me again or try to bang her and then tell her to gtfo. I'm still debating on it. She's definitely not relationship material and I don't want to pursue a relationship with her. I feel like I dodged a bullet here.

I have recently been gaming two other prospects. Both of them way more attractive then her, younger, and seemed much more wholesome too. I number closed one of them and invited her out to a improv comedy class I am taking as well as a martial arts class, and she has also told me to come back to the rock climbing gym to go rock climbing with her again where I met her.

Lots of other girls out there. If a girl is unwilling to do what is necessary for you guys to progress forward, you walk the **** away and never look back while becoming a better man in every aspect of your life. When she see's all the new changes that you have made, and all the attention you are now getting from other girls, while ignoring her a$$, It will eat her up from the inside out.

 

[JohnChops]

Funny you should make a thread about oneitis'es coming back. My oneitis drove me to this site. I've been dealing with my oneitis reaching out to me these past few months but I blew her off these past few weeks multiple times. ***** was stringing me along and made me jump through hoops and walls keeping me as the boyfriend/provider/ backup option. I found out in late July that she screwed one of my classmates back in late May on her trip to Cuba. That $hit really stung, especially knowing that I am ten times the man that guy was. ***** tried to keep it a secret when she tried to reach out back to me in June after I walked away in April. After that I got really disgusted with her. Saw her grind with three guys including that guy that she hooked up with at a nightclub event that my classmates organized. She then proceeded to try and grind with me after seeing me dance with another girl. I quickly blew her off and she looked depressed and sad that night. I saw her with that guy who she hooked up with later in the night, and he tried to kiss her and as soon as she saw me walk by, she turned away and didn't kiss him. A few weeks later, I'm at a social event at a pub and she sees me and starts waving at me, I just wave back and ignore her after that. Later that night, as I walked by the bar, I saw her staring at me while sitting beside that guy. Again I ignored her and deleted her number. Last week I received a phone call from some random number while working out and then found out it was her. I told her I was busy working out and that I would call her back, which I didn't intend to do lol. She calls me the next day while I'm busy and I end up missing her call as my phone was in my jacket and I wasn't wearing it. She texts me immediately saying 'thunder_god! wtf, your not available". Then I call her 2 hours later to see what all the fuss was about. Turns out she is failing in school and has to repeat the school year because of "recent things but won't tell me what" and will end up being in my class again. I quickly end the phone call and then block her number and unfriend her on facebook. Next day, I receive 6 phone calls within a span of 12 minutes from her. Since I had blocked her, I didn't see her calls until yesterday when I was looking at my phone logs.

Anyways **** her! ***** was playing hard to get and games with me. She tried to act all decent and innocent in front of me, but behind my back was a ****ing slut. She didn't do what was necessary for us to be together so I walked away. Now she's regretting her decision, and I'm going to let her suffer for it. I could potentially **** her now, but frankly I'm disgusted by her and don't want anything to do with her after finding out about her secret activities. Not sure if I should tell her to f off if she tries to reach out to me again or try to bang her and then tell her to gtfo. I'm still debating on it. She's definitely not relationship material and I don't want to pursue a relationship with her. I feel like I dodged a bullet here.

I have recently been gaming two other prospects. Both of them way more attractive then her, younger, and seemed much more wholesome too. I number closed one of them and invited her out to a improv comedy class I am taking as well as a martial arts class, and she has also told me to come back to the rock climbing gym to go rock climbing with her again where I met her.

Lots of other girls out there. If a girl is unwilling to do what is necessary for you guys to progress forward, you walk the **** away and never look back while becoming a better man in every aspect of your life. When she see's all the new changes that you have made, and all the attention you are now getting from other girls, while ignoring her a$$, It will eat her up from the inside out.

This is simply gold T-god.

So I went to my friends show, I told her I was leaving she said she forgot about it and told me to send her a lot of pictures/spam her phone. Eh, f that. Went to the show, had an awesome time, my buddy came in 4th in the light heavy class. Stoked for him and met some cool peopl . All in all a good night.

I simply haven't responded to her. I'm so behind on studying its ****ing ridiculous, so no time for that now.

However, she asked me if I was going out on the 23rd. Its a work party at a club/bar thing for her bday which is the 23r d. I probably won't go since im assuming I'll be swamped with work.

Also found out this girl at the gym, who I number closed, has a boyfrien . Found out thru Instagram, of all places, she didn't even mention him. Lol. Oh well.

 

[uadialej]

See how she acts around you at your friends show tomorrow, and if you have a chance to do anything you should try. If not you might regret it. The good thing about an old oneitius coming around again is they can tell a difference in your experience/confidence level, and seem more attracted because of it.





Should I Ignore My Ex

 

[JohnChops]

Updating this thread:

So she sent me a text the other day asking me if I was coming to her birthday outing thing that I guess her and her work friends set up. I told her I am going, thinking about simply not showing up. But my other buddy is going and I havent gone out with him in awhile, used to be a real close friend, out every weekend partying and clubbing but since school started we havent done sh1t.

So I am debating on whether I want to go and party with my buddy or just simply not go. I haven't gone out in awhile, maybe I need a break. We shall see. Ill update you fellas tomorrow and see what happens.

Its pretty funny to see her like this, to be honest; By that I mean, chasing me.