"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

To be or not to be exclusive?

H

HarlequinMan

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 6, 2007
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
Age
38
Location
Denver, CO
Ok im seeing this girl tuesday in class who ive been dating and made the tragic mistake of telling her we would be exclusive. She is horrible at returning calls (2-3 days after i leave a message she will call) but she told me i was her first boyfriend....so im giving her a little slack. Im pretty sure she is interested, but losing interest...so ive devised a plan to get out of this asap without commiting relationship suicide.

On tue. i think im going to tell her, in person, that im only exclusive with girls ive had sex with (advice from amoka on this board) then ill say we can still date but id rather wait until your ready for sex before we are exclusive. She is a virgin (obviously), so this may present problems...however, i really dont give a F&#$ because i can go for other girls....

What do you think fellas? Id really like to get this girl more interested but i think the only other option is ignoring her....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

C

COD

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2006
Messages
1,197
Reaction score
30
active disinterest or playing hard to get often reaps desired results
 
H

HarlequinMan

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 6, 2007
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
Age
38
Location
Denver, CO
Ahhhh, yes i should know these things....im restraining myself from calling her man....the inner AFC will not surface today!
 
C

crazymedstudent

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2008
Messages
39
Reaction score
2
Location
New York, NY
HarlequinMan said:
Ok im seeing this girl tuesday in class who ive been dating and made the tragic mistake of telling her we would be exclusive. She is horrible at returning calls (2-3 days after i leave a message she will call) but she told me i was her first boyfriend....so im giving her a little slack. Im pretty sure she is interested, but losing interest...so ive devised a plan to get out of this asap without commiting relationship suicide.

On tue. i think im going to tell her, in person, that im only exclusive with girls ive had sex with (advice from amoka on this board) then ill say we can still date but id rather wait until your ready for sex before we are exclusive. She is a virgin (obviously), so this may present problems...however, i really dont give a F&#$ because i can go for other girls....

What do you think fellas? Id really like to get this girl more interested but i think the only other option is ignoring her....
Click to expand...
I would NOT tell her that the only way you will be exclusive is if you are having sex with a girl. This will make you seem cold and shallow. Instead just tell her you aren't ready to settle down with anyone. Tell her that you like hanging out and you don't like to worry about the future and just like to have fun and live in the moment.

I personally think giving her that ultimatum is suicide.
 
H

HarlequinMan

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 6, 2007
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
Age
38
Location
Denver, CO
crazymedstudent said:
I would NOT tell her that the only way you will be exclusive is if you are having sex with a girl. This will make you seem cold and shallow. Instead just tell her you aren't ready to settle down with anyone. Tell her that you like hanging out and you don't like to worry about the future and just like to have fun and live in the moment.

I personally think giving her that ultimatum is suicide.
Click to expand...
Ya man i agree...i thought about it more and now i think that would only work with girls willing to have sex haha....or maybe not at all

So my new plan is just to ignore her...however she is quiet shy and never calls so maybe ill never hear from her...**** it im moving on
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

T

The_411

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2005
Messages
962
Reaction score
149
Ultinatums are never a good idea because they almost always yield the opposite of the desired result.

They are great for getting rid of women however :)
 
H

HarlequinMan

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 6, 2007
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
Age
38
Location
Denver, CO
**** i know man....one time i told this ex girlfriend of mine to either be **** buddies with me or never talk to me again....

turns out she never talked to me again, supporting your theory 411...
 
S

sodbuster

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 11, 2008
Messages
2,560
Reaction score
373
Age
67
Location
South Dakota
If she doesn't return your calls, you aren't going to get anywhere threatening her. She's already shown you how little you matter in her life. An interested woman would call back sooner. Or if she really was that busy,would make up for it when she was dating you.

I'd just tell her she doesn't seem that interested in you and maybe we shouldn't date if this is how she sees the relationship progressing. I don't think you will be losing anything[you can't lose what you never had].
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top