"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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To be or not to be exclusive?

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Ok im seeing this girl tuesday in class who ive been dating and made the tragic mistake of telling her we would be exclusive. She is horrible at returning calls (2-3 days after i leave a message she will call) but she told me i was her first boyfriend....so im giving her a little slack. Im pretty sure she is interested, but losing interest...so ive devised a plan to get out of this asap without commiting relationship suicide.

On tue. i think im going to tell her, in person, that im only exclusive with girls ive had sex with (advice from amoka on this board) then ill say we can still date but id rather wait until your ready for sex before we are exclusive. She is a virgin (obviously), so this may present problems...however, i really dont give a F&#$ because i can go for other girls....

What do you think fellas? Id really like to get this girl more interested but i think the only other option is ignoring her....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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active disinterest or playing hard to get often reaps desired results
 
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Ahhhh, yes i should know these things....im restraining myself from calling her man....the inner AFC will not surface today!
 
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HarlequinMan said:
Ok im seeing this girl tuesday in class who ive been dating and made the tragic mistake of telling her we would be exclusive. She is horrible at returning calls (2-3 days after i leave a message she will call) but she told me i was her first boyfriend....so im giving her a little slack. Im pretty sure she is interested, but losing interest...so ive devised a plan to get out of this asap without commiting relationship suicide.

On tue. i think im going to tell her, in person, that im only exclusive with girls ive had sex with (advice from amoka on this board) then ill say we can still date but id rather wait until your ready for sex before we are exclusive. She is a virgin (obviously), so this may present problems...however, i really dont give a F&#$ because i can go for other girls....

What do you think fellas? Id really like to get this girl more interested but i think the only other option is ignoring her....
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I would NOT tell her that the only way you will be exclusive is if you are having sex with a girl. This will make you seem cold and shallow. Instead just tell her you aren't ready to settle down with anyone. Tell her that you like hanging out and you don't like to worry about the future and just like to have fun and live in the moment.

I personally think giving her that ultimatum is suicide.
 
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crazymedstudent said:
I would NOT tell her that the only way you will be exclusive is if you are having sex with a girl. This will make you seem cold and shallow. Instead just tell her you aren't ready to settle down with anyone. Tell her that you like hanging out and you don't like to worry about the future and just like to have fun and live in the moment.

I personally think giving her that ultimatum is suicide.
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Ya man i agree...i thought about it more and now i think that would only work with girls willing to have sex haha....or maybe not at all

So my new plan is just to ignore her...however she is quiet shy and never calls so maybe ill never hear from her...**** it im moving on
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ultinatums are never a good idea because they almost always yield the opposite of the desired result.

They are great for getting rid of women however :)
 
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**** i know man....one time i told this ex girlfriend of mine to either be **** buddies with me or never talk to me again....

turns out she never talked to me again, supporting your theory 411...
 
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If she doesn't return your calls, you aren't going to get anywhere threatening her. She's already shown you how little you matter in her life. An interested woman would call back sooner. Or if she really was that busy,would make up for it when she was dating you.

I'd just tell her she doesn't seem that interested in you and maybe we shouldn't date if this is how she sees the relationship progressing. I don't think you will be losing anything[you can't lose what you never had].
 
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