Yup so I heard from Devin he was having a problem so I decided to go back to this site and check his post. But ya I think this is a prime example of what the problem is that I've seen with guys who are having trouble with girls. I've seriousely had very similar conversations to this with people i know. So I suggest anyone in the same boat to listen up:
Guy A: I haven't gotten laid yet man, I haven't even done more than kiss one girl, i guess girls dont like me enough.
Jvesti: Have you ever tried to do more than kiss a girl? Have you tried to go further?
Guy A: No not yet
Jvesti: umm I wonder why then, you think its gonna jump in your lap
Guy b: Man, I can never get girls at house parties! I talk to them any everythin but they never seem to makeout with me!
Jvesti: Have you even tried to kiss a girl at a house party or let alone touch her?
Guy b: Nope
Guys who take risks get girls. their masculinity drives them to do so which they are in touch with, a girl wants a strong confident masculine man not a guy who uses canned lines, doesn't take risks, is all focused on her response, is all cerebral logic they want to take a break from by partying, and can't adapt to social situations. I used to have think problem all the time.
The fact you are all cerebral in a setting where you've been in a pressure cooker for 5 days being cerebral and people are looking to relieve stress is your problem not theirs.
Guys who are successful with women come FROM their emotion and drive they dont come from intellectualizing the situation. Get over it intellectuals! There's NOTHING you can do with being a smarty smart to get a girl. Save it for class. Sexual attraction is a primative part of us that is situated in primitive parts of the brain and doesn't originate in deep intellectual thought of higher thinking. God, people drunk themselves up which inhibits the brain so they CAN get laid. That's why 80% of bars exist, alcohol and sex go hand in hand for a reason.
All of you guys who think just because your smart you are superior somehow need to get a reality check. You're not, you'll make a great decently paid worker bee for a sometimes smart and definitely action-oriented leader who will get all the glory but yeah there's guys who sit on their asses arguing if the world is round or square then theres guys who venture into the abyss to find out the truth.
For those of you in college or that are for the most part in social hierachies need to realize. There is no way around it. If you sit on your ass, play quake 3 or whatever games, have dorks for friends, have no status or place in that community, your not gonna get the hot cheerleader. No amount of reading seduction **** is gonna matter! There's a reason why the guys that are getting those cheerleaders dont even know **** about any seduction stuff or even care much.
Cause in knit social networks like that you can only pretend your confident, cool, but people can easily judge you by who you are associated with at the houseparty, or if they even know you. You can do it until your blue in the face but the reality someone sees of you will tell another story.
ONLY in bars and clubs can you be able to get away faking that you have status cause its basically not a community or tribe so to speak. And even then, it will come out very shortly.
We are social animals for godsakes, get in touch with your testosterone (the fight in ya) and rise yourself to the top of someone of value. GO OUT AND GET VALUE, become a person worth something to your community. Stop trying to look for ways to pretend to be a person of value, its not gonna work in college, and even out of social hierachies, you can only sneak it for a very short time.
Use that brain of yours, stop using it to run from your fears. If you dont think your cool enough to do that, then tough luck, you can't have your cake and eat it too (or girls and eat them too). Instead of trying to look for ways to circumvent the social problem, deal with it head on. There is no way around this aside for the ability to slip roofies in her drink without her knowing.
I've heard a guy when i suggested that go (That's too tough!) as he sat and kept reading techniques, upon gobs of posts on and on. Which shows the root of the problem right there.
Here are some suggestions to have status (which you already know, but probably aren't facing), i'll just nudge it at ya :
Join a frat - Generally a lot of you reading this that have the intellectual problem will go. OOOHH those guys are idiots, they are so dumb, what a bunch of boneheads! That's basically nerd envy. You really envy them as they bone the chicks you want.
You call them idiots, yet they made it into the same college as you, will have the frat as good connections for the reason of their lives. When you call them boneheads with your air of fake superiority, its just a bunch of guys being men, partying it up, that dont rely on their minds to make themselves feel important.
Get involved in school activities - Yup, go out there and be part of something. Get involved in groups, sports, hell even intermurals. Go out and meet new people, be action oriented. MAKE New friends.
If you want to do solo activities, your sexual experiences are going to be solo. We are social animals.
Work on your shyness everyday - Back in the day, I went to visit a family member up at college at the start of the year. All this person did was go into places at the campus parties and walk up and shake people's hands and meet them, CONSTANTLY. Then to top it off he is a football player which is also instant masculine status. He ends up to be one of the most well known popular people at his large school with plenty of chicks.
You are going to have to overcome your fears to get anywhere. Not smarter things to do or better techniques, that's what intellectual guys do and they dont get laid. Take a note from the guys who do, dont hate them.
Anyways, you simply do these 2 or 3 things and your ability to get women and even get laid will shoot up 1000 times over. Your trying to hit a homerun out of Fenway with a nerf bat, no matter how much batting technique lessons you learn you aint gonna be hittin it further than the pitchers mound.
