"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To anyone who hasn't read a book by OSHO, do it NOW

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Osho was a Mystic teacher from India who turned America upside down in the 70's and 80's with his radical, transformative and dangerous way of speaking. Aside from being an enlightened genius, he broke down the truth about relationships, love, marriage, sex, and feminism like no has ever.

I have not come across a more valuable resource for inner game development, and total self mastery in regards to life and women anywhere.

There was a lot of controversy around this man, and he may have even been poisoned to death by the U.S. Government. If you read some of his books, you will understand why.

If you are about transcending the Matrix, and blowing by all the BS women and society try to put on you, Osho books are a must read.

I recommend:

Creativity: Incites for a new way of living.

Intimicy:Incites for a new way of living.

Intuition:Incites for a new way of living.

Courage: Incites for a new way of living.

All available at Borders, etc.

And any other books in this series, and any other Osho (Bahgwan Shree Rashneesh) books you can get your hands on. I will post a paragraph from one of the books in this thread later, to give you a taste.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hi i have read osho's works...and yes and I did find them pretty get-me-on-the-way-to-self-exploration type...But the problem with this guy is that he'll tell you from what to wear to how to talk...and that's just about creating followers...

He attained enlightenment(whatever that means..) ..but if he thinks that's exactly how everybody can achieve it...I'm sorry a man got to find his own path...

let me tell i have been his follower for more than a year..i understood what he said...and i embraced it...but after that it did't even matter...i find him fake...with his seven incarnation theory etc.

Any spiritiual text or guru can be really consuming..they might solace you in the beginning but in due time everybody realises the wastefulness of all this...may be it's the awakened spirit that gives you this realization...
 

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sherineo said:
hi i have read osho's works...and yes and I did find them pretty get-me-on-the-way-to-self-exploration type...But the problem with this guy is that he'll tell you from what to wear to how to talk...and that's just about creating followers...
That is very interesting. In most of the books and talks I have heard, he refuses to give any instructions. Rather, he mandates that you must discover it for yourself. He is very self contradicting however, so I dont doubt what you say. He tends to tell each group what that group needs to hear at that moment.

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He attained enlightenment(whatever that means..) ..but if he thinks that's exactly how everybody can achieve it...I'm sorry a man got to find his own path...
Right. And that can be said about this forum as well. Eventually it needs to be dropped.


sherineo said:
let me tell i have been his follower for more than a year..i understood what he said...and i embraced it...but after that it did't even matter...i find him fake...with his seven incarnation theory etc.
Not familiar with this, and I'm not so interested in his spiritual methods. Just his radical and profound outlook on social dynamics.

sherineo said:
Any spiritiual text or guru can be really consuming..they might solace you in the beginning but in due time everybody realises the wastefulness of all this...may be it's the awakened spirit that gives you this realization...
Again this included dating forums and advice books and techniques as well.

Thanks for you feed back
 
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