Hughman
Senior Don Juan
I've been busy, too busy, but I've found some time in the dead of night to finally mind dump the things I've learnt these past few months at uni.
NB - this is written for the UK/European audience in mind. The Americas are slightly different due to retarded laws and social customs, but plenty of this stuff applies.
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Want to lose the big V? Want to be the man on campus? Read and you might learn something.
1) Have no fear
Fear is the heart of all beta's problems. You fear being laughd at. You feared being labelled a creep. You fear not making friends. You fear making enemies. You fear rejection.
Forget about fear. That doesn't mean being stupid. You have to know what to say, how to say it, when to say it, whilst backing it up with good body language and status.
Hold the belief: I am the man. (or a man. Which ever semantics floats your boat). Remember, most people are chumps. They aren't going to say anything to you. If they do - reverse and amplify their statements ie tease/play them at their own game. Make them look foolish for messing with you.
2) Be unique (but in a good way - if that makes sense).
Hold your own beliefs and opinions, within acceptable reason. Dress to suit your build (and community - being a punk in a redneck town isn't going to do you any favours). Be humourous - either dry & sarcastic, the clown etc etc
Pretty simple really. You'll stand out. You'll be memorable. You'll create emotional dissonance. But that's a good thing. Emotion > No emotion
3) Get some testosterone in you
I mean this literally and metaphorically. Hit the gym. Eat some meat. Play some contact or adrelanine sports. Go out on the razz with your buddies. Watch some sport. Comment on the fineness of the women around you to your buddies. You'll find if you have some regular sport and socialising in your life, you'll stop wanking (it's got to be said - I was at leats a daily meat-grinder, now I barely do it weekly, though that's because I've also emptied them via er, other methods). When sarging, make sure you have filled balls.
4) Be sociable and force yourself to have some extraversion
Sort of connects other points, but really, it's not hard to make a social life for yourself with some effort. To even the greatest nerds and loners - most universities having gaming societies now, so even you guys can still find some guys that are like you and go and do **** with them.
Join some clubs and societies, invite yourself round to people's hosues/parties with some beer in tow, open on guys and/or girls by commenting on something they are talking about or a prop they have.
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Hope that helps
Peace
NB - this is written for the UK/European audience in mind. The Americas are slightly different due to retarded laws and social customs, but plenty of this stuff applies.
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Want to lose the big V? Want to be the man on campus? Read and you might learn something.
1) Have no fear
Fear is the heart of all beta's problems. You fear being laughd at. You feared being labelled a creep. You fear not making friends. You fear making enemies. You fear rejection.
Forget about fear. That doesn't mean being stupid. You have to know what to say, how to say it, when to say it, whilst backing it up with good body language and status.
Hold the belief: I am the man. (or a man. Which ever semantics floats your boat). Remember, most people are chumps. They aren't going to say anything to you. If they do - reverse and amplify their statements ie tease/play them at their own game. Make them look foolish for messing with you.
2) Be unique (but in a good way - if that makes sense).
Hold your own beliefs and opinions, within acceptable reason. Dress to suit your build (and community - being a punk in a redneck town isn't going to do you any favours). Be humourous - either dry & sarcastic, the clown etc etc
Pretty simple really. You'll stand out. You'll be memorable. You'll create emotional dissonance. But that's a good thing. Emotion > No emotion
3) Get some testosterone in you
I mean this literally and metaphorically. Hit the gym. Eat some meat. Play some contact or adrelanine sports. Go out on the razz with your buddies. Watch some sport. Comment on the fineness of the women around you to your buddies. You'll find if you have some regular sport and socialising in your life, you'll stop wanking (it's got to be said - I was at leats a daily meat-grinder, now I barely do it weekly, though that's because I've also emptied them via er, other methods). When sarging, make sure you have filled balls.
4) Be sociable and force yourself to have some extraversion
Sort of connects other points, but really, it's not hard to make a social life for yourself with some effort. To even the greatest nerds and loners - most universities having gaming societies now, so even you guys can still find some guys that are like you and go and do **** with them.
Join some clubs and societies, invite yourself round to people's hosues/parties with some beer in tow, open on guys and/or girls by commenting on something they are talking about or a prop they have.
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Hope that helps
Peace