You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
My reason for training has changed a few times. At first it was to lose some fat, then it was to reduce stress and have an aggression outlet (after a breakup). Now it's primarily to get stronger for powerlifting, with a minor goal of looking better.I would really appreciate it, if anyone here can share stories of how you dealt with your issues with vanity. Specifically in reacting to outside distractions and how you stayed disciplined in mind about the real reason for why you train.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Why? There is no reason in having rock hard biceps and a chisled six-pack if your not going to show it off.rioku said:Keep your damn shirt ON.
GOD....
Sure... I get that. I'm just saying that chronic shirtless syndrome is a pathological, though funny, affectation. Type Crossfit in any video-hosting site, and you'll see what I mean.Lucifero said:Why? There is no reason in having rock hard biceps and a chisled six-pack if your not going to show it off.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
rioku said:Hey all,
I'm really sorry for the outburst. I'm not one to question CrossFit methodology. I am following and it gives me results!
My issue was that of vanity. I don't want to become a person so enraptured with himself that he loses sight of truer aims. I saw this standard take hold in the local box where I trained for a full year. I opted out when a disproportionate number of people there would take their shirts off (and 'peacock') during every workout. It was condoned by some trainers even.
People surrounding me do influence me. Thus, I decided to train solo before I get to a performance level where I will be able to hold my own beside the elite dedicated individuals.
I would really appreciate it, if anyone here can share stories of how you dealt with your issues with vanity. Specifically in reacting to outside distractions and how you stayed disciplined in mind about the real reason for why you train.
I believe I know my real reason: It makes me feel powerful in the gut, which translates to the other realms in my life. Over long time frames though, this fades to the background, with more banal things taking precedence in my mind while I train. I do get back on track after these lows, but I am interested in staying in an optimal frame of mind through the thick and thin of a life of training; through the days when I'm killing it, as well as the days when training becomes too hard and painful, or seems tedious drudgery.
One thing I am doing now is making training always fun again, by going on trail runs, hikes, and bike rides. But I don't want this to come at the cost of serious performance-driven training a la CrossFit. I need to maintain the right mind-frame and I definitely can do without ego-distractions that creep in from time to time.
I feel as though it (vanity/ego) is a taboo subject and yet very personal. What are your thoughts? It will make for an interesting discussion. There's a reason that I'm not posting this on the CrossFit boards. Looking forward to some replies.
Thanks,
Rioku
Btw: I'm 5'9, 137 lbs BW.... stats are 155lbs squat, 215 lbs deadlift, weak bench press, and good at pullups and dips, if they mean anything to the discussion at hand.
Ye, true, I don't like douche bags but what I don't like most of all is player haters (like the guys that judge but are always on the sidelines)Now, most of us would ridicule these guys and their poser-like ways, but guess what? It works.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
it's a buncha skinny nerds running around doing pullups with horrible form and then supersetting them with pushups followed by jumping jacks and more jerking pullupsTizZle said:Wtf is crossfit?
Too much hating bro. I've been lifting consistently for the last 3 yrs and i love switching it up with a crossfit session for about a month when i get tired from the heavy lifting. It's a good thing.escobar04 said:it's a buncha skinny nerds running around doing pullups with horrible form and then supersetting them with pushups followed by jumping jacks and more jerking pullups
I know what you mean. I like switching it up once in awhile. My body gets tired from the same stress over and over. Sometimes I like to just run for awhile instead of weights.search1ng said:Too much hating bro. I've been lifting consistently for the last 3 yrs and i love switching it up with a crossfit session for about a month when i get tired from the heavy lifting. It's a good thing.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.