"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I’m an avid book reader/ lifetime learner. I listen to on average 5-10 audiobooks a month, if not more. One of my core principles in life is always learning and getting better in all facets in life.

My current recommendation is “This is marketing” by Seth Godin. It was a game changer for me. It allowed me to raise $100k for a failed crypto project. I somehow was able to convince a bunch of whales in a private server in Discord to give me $100k to fail to lunch a crypto token. It also taught me so much about status and connection and improved my game 10 fold. If you listen his audiobook, make sure you read his chapter on status.

Im curious to see everyone else’s recommendations.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Some of The Books that’s helped me over the years

- KJV Bible - my bread and butter, I’d rather not go to the religious details but it keeps me grounded and humble as a person.

-Tuesday’s with Morrie- A good book that deals with your mortality and how to be grateful and spend your time daily.

- How to make friends and influence people- Good book about basic social skills and making connections.

- The Way of the superior man- Good book about pursuing one’s purpose and the types of women in your life.
 

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Sadly in my observations, reading has become somewhat of a lost art... :(

Anyway...

I am also an avid reader and have quite a varied taste!
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Both fiction and non-fiction but for fiction a couple of my fave's:

To Kill a Mockingbird
Pride and Prejudice
The Underground Railroad

Non-Fiction

The Executioner's Song
The Quiet Room
Somebody's Daughter
 
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Sadly in my observations, reading has become somewhat of a lost art... :(

Anyway...

I am also an avid reader and have quite a varied taste!
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Both fiction and non-fiction but for fiction a couple of my fave's:

To Kill a Mockingbird
Pride and Prejudice
The Underground Railroad

Non-Fiction

The Executioner's Song
The Quiet Room
Somebody's Daughter
lol is your avatar the movie Fatal attraction? What’s the meaning behind that?
 

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lol is your avatar the movie Fatal attraction? What’s the meaning behind that?
Haha I was afraid someone might ask me about that! :lol:

Yes there is a bit of a "story" behind it but would rather keep that private. For now anyway....

That said...

I also happen to think it's a really cool snd sexy photo!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Haha I was afraid someone might ask me about that! :lol:

Yes there is a bit of a "story" behind it but would rather keep that private. For now anyway....

That said...

I also happen to think it's a really cool snd sexy photo!
It's probably something like becareful who you fvck, it might ruin your fvcken life....is that something alone the lines? lol
 

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I don’t read many personal development books, but if I had to recommend a couple, I’d suggest these:
  • Psycho-Cybernetics – Teaches how reshaping your self-image and using visualization can unlock confidence, success, and better performance in every area of life.
  • David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants – Shows how disadvantages can be turned into strengths, proving that underdogs and misfits often succeed by playing the game differently.
 

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I don’t read many personal development books, but if I had to recommend a couple, I’d suggest these:
  • Psycho-Cybernetics – Teaches how reshaping your self-image and using visualization can unlock confidence, success, and better performance in every area of life.
  • David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants – Shows how disadvantages can be turned into strengths, proving that underdogs and misfits often succeed by playing the game differently.
I read or at least listened to the psycho cybernetics audiobook. Man I felt like it was beyond my comprehension.

I think I got lost where I’ve always believed that you need to forgive others so that you can forgive yourself, because no one is perfect. And when you let others transgressions go, you can let your own transgressions go. But then the book said even this wasn’t genuine because you’re only pretending to forgive others so that you have an excuse to forgive yourself. At that point I was like man, this book is too meta for me lmao. Perhaps I need to visit that book again. It’s still in my library.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I haven't read Psycho-Cybernetics however with respect to forgiveness, what I've learned is that you're not forgiving others for them, letting them off the hook for whatever wrong they did....

But rather choosing to forgive for YOU!

">>By allowing you to move beyond negative experiences that would otherwise trap you in the past."

"By practicing forgiveness, you can release resentment, prevent emotional wounds from distorting your self-image, and ultimately liberate yourself to pursue future goals and new experiences.<<"


I truly believe this and use that principle in my own life and have had LOTS of practice doing so...
 

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Another book I would recommend would be “The 7 habits of highly effective people.” By Stephen R. Covey. This book was recommended to me but a mentor of mines who sold millions in solar when I was a struggling door to door sales man and it changed my life. I think it helps with both your career and relationships. The book is a powerhouse when it comes to emotional intelligence. In fact, I would say 99% of my philosophies in life came from this book.
 

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The Tao of Jeet Kune Do by Bruce Lee

Just read the first section that discusses the philosophy of Bruce Lee and how he created his own style. Very applicable to seduction and beyond.

"Research your own experience; absorb what is useful, reject what is useless and add what is essentially your own."
 

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“How to meet and connect with women” by Juggler aka Wayne Elise. Back when I was a “PUA” this was my favorite book of all time. Juggler had a chapter in Neil Strauss’s “The Game”, and for some reason his chapter resonated with me.

The book doesn’t read like a PUA book. It reads more like Dale Carnegie’s “How to win friends and influence people.”

Even in 2025 (Especially in 2025) I think people need social skills more than ever. We are growing more and more as an antisocial society. But you know what they say…In the land of social retards, the natural charmer is the king.
 

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Sadly in my observations, reading has become somewhat of a lost art... :(
Reading is a force multiplier. If you are naturally a smart person, reading will make you smarter. If you’re a dumbass, reading will fill your head with stupid and destructive ideas. The world is full of people who have read hundreds of books and yet believe in ideas so absurd that even barely literate carpenter would find them laughable. Every evil ideology you can think of, from communism to fascism to feminism to transgenderism, was invented by book-smart people.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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