Well, I am a typical guy who actually been involved with different relationships and It always ended up like a trashed, Is it me? Is it the way I handle the relationship? I can't hardly spell it out, I have been so pissed off everytime that a girl would say there typical lines, "I need some space" , " I want to have a breath of fresh air " , " I am dealing a lot of stuff right now and I think we should cut off seeing each other" etc., what the ****! that's just their way of ditching a guy and it punch me in a minute knowing that every relationship, I made a point to invest a lot of emotions and make all the effort to keep the relationship but then what can I do?, I just can't figure out why women easily change their feelings in just a snap of a finger. I am so confused at the moment, I badly want some advice how to deal with my situation right now.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tired of being ditch!
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134995
Dude read this post it may help answer your questions
Dude read this post it may help answer your questions
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
troy_003 said:"I need some space" , " I want to have a breath of fresh air " , " I am dealing a lot of stuff right now and I think we should cut off seeing each other" etc.,
every relationship,I made a point to invest a lot of emotions and make all the effort to keep the relationship
When I read what these women are saying to you, and how you invest a lot of emotions and effort into the relationship, it just makes me think that you're too relationship-focused. Like you're one of those guys who BADLY wants a girlfriend.
A girl might break up with me for a number of reasons, but i never hear "I need more space."
So, I don't know your whole story, but it sounds like you need some interests outside of your relationship. Hobbies. Sports. Clubs. Friends. Instead of calling/texting a gf 7 days a week, call/text 3 days a week. Instead of seeing her 5 days, see her 2 or 3 days.
troy_003 said:I made a point to invest a lot of emotions .
thats your problem right there. women despise that, they truly hate it. sounds counter intuitive but drop the emotional sh!t.
Mr.SomeoneElse
Don Juan
You sound like someone who makes their relationship their life.
You have to stop doing that.
A relationship should be SHARING your life with someone else.
If your life = the relationship, then you really have a problem about the sharing aspect, making you un-ininteresting and clingy.
Iceberg is right man, get some hobbies, outside interests, self-improvement, girls will follow and the girls that do follow will be of higher quality.
The girls that dumped you will be messaging you asking you to take THEM back. Truth.
You have to stop doing that.
A relationship should be SHARING your life with someone else.
If your life = the relationship, then you really have a problem about the sharing aspect, making you un-ininteresting and clingy.
Iceberg is right man, get some hobbies, outside interests, self-improvement, girls will follow and the girls that do follow will be of higher quality.
The girls that dumped you will be messaging you asking you to take THEM back. Truth.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
They are not doing it in a "snap of a finger."troy_003 said:I just can't figure out why women easily change their feelings in just a snap of a finger.
That is an illusion us men assume naturally.
by the time they tell you, they've already thought it all through, hamster full spin cycle.
They only tell you after they've decided already, which seems like an instant, but in actuality was going on days or weeks prior.
my last ex, I knew we were done when she tactfully retrieved her items from my house one by one. a week after getting her last item back, she called it off.
I saw it coming, because of reading other stories here and figured it was going to happen any day and it did.