Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Tired of being a nice guy?--Big Tips!!!

JoeIzHere

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Ok, this is coming from a former nice guy. Im not rugged or thuggish. nor gangsta but i aint a nice guy either. these are some tips that i am nice enough to give to yall nice guys.

1) teasing: you have to tease the girl. whether you're with her or not. Doing this hides you're feelings to a certain degree. it adds humor and spice. Guys usually hide their feelings and women usually act on their feelings. Don't over tease or insult too badly though. If you're too foward with your feelings and get too emotional about her without a lil teasing, then you are oficially a nice guy.

2) Challenge her: Even if you know you're wrong about something. debate with her just to see if she can back up what she said with research, facts etc. so she'll have something to prove to you. this shows that you can't be easily won over every time.

3) Never admit you're afraid: Don't admit to being afraid of anything. I actually told my first girlfriend that i was afraid of her. Woooo have i come a long way. I mean was i off my meds or something LOL.

4) If she aint your woman and you want her to be. don't settle for friendship. If she tries to use you as an emotional tampon cuz she know you like her. Tell her "look i will not be used as your emotional tampon".

Thats it, Be yourself and add the 4 elements in once in a while and you're on your way to being a "great guy" not nice or mean.
but in between.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alpine

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Joey,

I like the way you put it. I think alot of us new people are having trouble with this idea of being bad.

I guess you are saying you are still a nice person, you just ACT bad occasionally to keep 'em on their toes, or even on their backs ;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mr.S

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Read my last post...change your mind, change your life...
 

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Originally posted by JoeIzHere
Ok, this is coming from a former nice guy. Im not rugged or thuggish. nor gangsta but i aint a nice guy either. these are some tips that i am nice enough to give to yall nice guys.

1) teasing: you have to tease the girl. whether you're with her or not. Doing this hides you're feelings to a certain degree. it adds humor and spice. Guys usually hide their feelings and women usually act on their feelings. Don't over tease or insult too badly though. If you're too foward with your feelings and get too emotional about her without a lil teasing, then you are oficially a nice guy.

2) Challenge her: Even if you know you're wrong about something. debate with her just to see if she can back up what she said with research, facts etc. so she'll have something to prove to you. this shows that you can't be easily won over every time.

3) Never admit you're afraid: Don't admit to being afraid of anything. I actually told my first girlfriend that i was afraid of her. Woooo have i come a long way. I mean was i off my meds or something LOL.

4) If she aint your woman and you want her to be. don't settle for friendship. If she tries to use you as an emotional tampon cuz she know you like her. Tell her "look i will not be used as your emotional tampon".

Thats it, Be yourself and add the 4 elements in once in a while and you're on your way to being a "great guy" not nice or mean.
but in between.

Anyone know of a smoother yet not nice way of saying "look i will not be used as your emotional tampon" ?
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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i do and was going to point it out anyway, because emotinal tampon is not a great phrase to use. Just say "sorry to hear that but im not your phyciatrist"
 

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All you gotta do is keep your distance and remember that girls don't like that crap so you might as well tell her your real intentions.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tha Realnezz

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what about it?
 
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