"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tips Section has dried up. Why?

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I've noticed that the Tips Section has been close to abandoned for a while now, with most activity going on in General Discussion and Mature Man.

My theory is that the community is rapidly changing and getting away from simple pickup techniques and and getting more serious about designing a successful life and developing the inner man.

Thoughts?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think in general its a lot more discussion and a lot less field work here. I think you get good tips from people getting out there and trying things. Not from sitting around debating on looks and other mundane stuff. I think if you see more field reports you might see more tips.
 
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Because people are more concerned with having their immediate and specific problems solved. Guys used to come on here and discipline themselves to learn the techniques, so they wouldn't have so many problems to begin with.

We all used to come on here and talk about our situations, and there was a lot of support, but there wasn't much tolerance for people who repeatedly did AFC sh!t without showing signs of improvement.

When you're improving, you get epiphanies, and you post your thoughts and ideas in Tips. We had real discussions, and flinging insults back and forth wasn't tolerated to the extent it is now. I looked at some of those old threads yesterday, and I can't believe the difference.

Although I have my doubts, I hope we can get back to the way it was. Those guys really knew their sh!t. This forum did me a world of good back then, and I could use that quality of advice now. I see that a lot of guys here could.
 
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It could be that my worst fear is coming true. Perhaps all the whining about how much looks matter and desperate attempts to convince everyone else of the same is finally starting to pay off. If guys are buying into this nonsense, then obviously there is no point in seeking out "tips" and so they stay out of that section of the forum.

That's just a theory, though.
 
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I've been said that, since I got here that experience is were it's at
you can read the bible till your black and blue, but it won't mean anything unless you apply it's teaching to your own life.

Too many guys come on here now looking for a "magic pill" to fix a problem with a girl and relationship that's en route breakupville, USA, or some Oneists situation which may be unsalavagble.

I wish I could read more success stories on here about guys who are not only doing well with the ladies, but at the gym, with business, with life, with their spirituality etc

God knows I'm trying my darnest with my situation
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just a Shot Away said:
It could be that my worst fear is coming true. Perhaps all the whining about how much looks matter and desperate attempts to convince everyone else of the same is finally starting to pay off. If guys are buying into this nonsense, then obviously there is no point in seeking out "tips" and so they stay out of that section of the forum.

That's just a theory, though.
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Can you talk about something else for a change? Or are you just a one trick pony.
 
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Alle_Gory said:
Can you talk about something else for a change? Or are you just a one trick pony.
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Listen, he asked a question and I offered a theory. I'm sorry you don't agree with it. No tricks, just brainstorming.
 
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