Tips (relationship)

[white cloud 8]

Hi,

I have some questions regarding in a relationship (my girlfriend - 27, myself - 21):

1) If my girlfriend and I are out for some drinks, and some random guy begins to talk to her (or just starts talking to her), what is the best way to handle this situation? this has not happened yet but, I would like to know the best way of handling it? I am not the jealous type either.

2) If my girlfriend asks me to hold her jacket (or even her purse ) I personally don't want to, and would firmly say no. How should I handle this situation? If it looks like I will do anything she asks then, I have literally become her b*tch, am I right?

3) We generally have good conversations but, there are instances where she will try to cause drama (stir some sh*t up) she is a little insecure/guarded about herself (she has been hurt emotionally in her past relationships) how should I handle drama, her starting sh*t or being disrespected? I know that will not tolerate being disrespected but, if it happens, what is the best way to handle it?

 

[itishe]

1) If she starts paying him alot of time/interest. Do the same and go talk to another girl in the bar. Be sure to really show that you're interested in what she has to say to really make your girlfriend jealous.

2) This one's up to you.

3) If she disrespects you, tell her to call you when she pulls her head out of her ass, then walk away.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Hi,

I have some questions regarding in a relationship (my girlfriend - 27, myself - 21):

1) If my girlfriend and I are out for some drinks, and some random guy begins to talk to her (or just starts talking to her), what is the best way to handle this situation? this has not happened yet but, I would like to know the best way of handling it? I am not the jealous type either.

Base your action on hers. If she has a quick conversation, rebuffs him and then refocuses her attention to you, no harm no foul. If this doesn't happen your recourse is to be introduced to him by your woman (establishing the two of you are together). Women who are well versed with dealing with third parties will readily introduce their guy to get rid of the third wheel. If your woman doesn't help her along and ask her to introduce you to him. Either way, don't spend a ton of time worrying about this if it hasn't happened.

2) If my girlfriend asks me to hold her jacket (or even her purse ) I personally don't want to, and would firmly say no. How should I handle this situation? If it looks like I will do anything she asks then, I have literally become her b*tch, am I right?

Holding it isn't the same as carrying it. If she's in a situation where she is trying on clothes in a department store, who cares it makes sense. If she's expecting you to carry around her garb, have a talk with her about bringing less stuff.

3) We generally have good conversations but, there are instances where she will try to cause drama (stir some sh*t up) she is a little insecure/guarded about herself (she has been hurt emotionally in her past relationships) how should I handle drama, her starting sh*t or being disrespected? I know that will not tolerate being disrespected but, if it happens, what is the best way to handle it?

Without knowing specifically what she's doing it's hard to tell if she is truly trying to disrespect you or whether she needs reassurance. You need to adjust your DJ reasoning when you're in a relationship, especially considering the difference in your ages.

 

[white cloud 8]

Base your action on hers. If she has a quick conversation, rebuffs him and then refocuses her attention to you, no harm no foul. If this doesn't happen your recourse is to be introduced to him by your woman (establishing the two of you are together). Women who are well versed with dealing with third parties will readily introduce their guy to get rid of the third wheel. If your woman doesn't help her along and ask her to introduce you to him. Either way, don't spend a ton of time worrying about this if it hasn't happened.



Holding it isn't the same as carrying it. If she's in a situation where she is trying on clothes in a department store, who cares it makes sense. If she's expecting you to carry around her garb, have a talk with her about bringing less stuff.

Without knowing specifically what she's doing it's hard to tell if she is truly trying to disrespect you or whether she needs reassurance. You need to adjust your DJ reasoning when you're in a relationship, especially considering the difference in your ages.

Thanks for the advice. As for question three, it sometimes is insecurity and other times it may be just trying to start something (although I am not sure of what?). Thus far, our conversations are pretty good though (I listen and respond accordingly, if need be necessary) other times I feel a little sarcastic and goofy and make the conversation a little more fun.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Thanks for the advice. As for question three, it sometimes is insecurity and other times it may be just trying to start something (although I am not sure of what?). Thus far, our conversations are pretty good though (I listen and respond accordingly, if need be necessary) other times I feel a little sarcastic and goofy and make the conversation a little more fun.

Sounds like you've got a handle on it. Just make sure that you don't mistakenly reply sarcastically when she needs reassurance.

 

[white cloud 8]

Hmmm...I guess her poking fun at me (sometimes) can just be taken in a joking manner (which I do, I just laugh it off) I burn her sometimes too but, we just laugh. I think though sometimes that she can dish it but, she can't take it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Hmmm...I guess her poking fun at me (sometimes) can just be taken in a joking manner (which I do, I just laugh it off) I burn her sometimes too but, we just laugh. I think though sometimes that she can dish it but, she can't take it.

Just a suggestion, but just keep it playful and try not to make your dig the one that one-ups her. The last thing you want to do is zing her big time and she makes a huge emotional deal out of it. Even worse is when she just stews about it. Women may forgive but they seldom if ever forget.