Tips on not being AFC in the relationship??

[frivolousz21]

Listen before I go on..I know I flame alot of guys here for pulling afc ****...I am sorry for that...I just wish to help you.

when it comes to get women..as in getting laid or pickingup chicks...I am good, I get what I want..fast.

but I care about someone..im with...and I can tell the last week..ive become more AFC..as were as at the beggining I as more DJ in the things I did..as in go days without calling...or calling sporadic...or seeing her at awkward times because I was too busy!

now I have givin some...and I want to take it bacK? should I just go about my ways how I am and who I am..and how I want to be? I suppose that is what got her in the first place

thanks

chris

 

[Luveno]

yo friv.

why do you feel like this? What did your girlfriend do in response to make you feel like you made a mistake?

 

[frivolousz21]

not really....she is homesick lived 25 yrs in one place..and she broke down in front of me..after she moved out..and I have been super sweet to her..and instead im gonna just tell her I am there for her and I got stuff to do..and not make her the centre of my life

 

[assasin]

or seeing her at awkward times because I was too busy!

But where you too busy? Being DJ isn't about following a set of rules:

stage 1: spot a girl and make eye contact, smile.
Stage 2: Approach, disarm *****shiedl
Stage 3: C+F, add Kino..

blah blah blah.

Being DJ is about changing your life to become the Alpha Male in every aspect of your life. No point in pretending to be DJ and then get caught by her slobbing around in a filthy one room apartment eating ramen wearing stained boxers.

It's not about rejecting "just be yourself", it's about making yourself the man you want to be. If the girl comes to you seeking solice then give it to her if you feel she deservs it from you. Just be aware of your own limits.

Don't let her become a burden to you through constant whining, but you don't need to be an unfeeling rock either.

Don't try and fix her problems unless she asks you to.

 

[jakeyboy]

whatever you do, never try and solve her problems, if not she'll associate her problems and bad feelings with you, and you dont't want that to happen.

yeah just let her know you are always there for her, but that you don't have all the time in the world to sit by her bedside and be her therapist.

stand by her, but remember to keep your life yours and yours alone.. and never let her negativity get to you.