"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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tips on improving phone game?

drift king

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i'm absolutely useless on the phone, but unfortunately.. most of the time you have to make date arrangements via the phone.. i get nervous, panic, i've just never been good on the phone and it makes me anxious using it.. even for non-date arrangements.

are there any tips u can give on how to improve your phone game?

im talking specifically about the calls where she's flaking and you're panicking.. she gives u the whole 'lets talk on sunday and we'll arrange it then..' i hate how they dont commit to a time and treat u like 1 of their buddies cos 'they dont make arrangements that far in advance'

i f'd up by calling straight back knowing full well i should have time closed 2 secs ago.. so im basically backtracking. i hate having to next girls when i got no options.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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A) Start being in control. You ask most of the questions (much like interviewing)
B) The phone is nothing more than a tool. You are just using it to set up a meeting time/date with the girl. If you talk too much
C) Once you close the deal IE set a date/time finish the call and go. You are making a sale. Once the sale is made, boom. You are done. Move on from there and start focusing on other girls.
 

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drift king said:
i'm absolutely useless on the phone, but unfortunately.. most of the time you have to make date arrangements via the phone.. i get nervous, panic, i've just never been good on the phone and it makes me anxious using it.. even for non-date arrangements.

are there any tips u can give on how to improve your phone game?

im talking specifically about the calls where she's flaking and you're panicking.. she gives u the whole 'lets talk on sunday and we'll arrange it then..' i hate how they dont commit to a time and treat u like 1 of their buddies cos 'they dont make arrangements that far in advance'

i f'd up by calling straight back knowing full well i should have time closed 2 secs ago.. so im basically backtracking. i hate having to next girls when i got no options.
Here is a game, which helped me partially master phone game
It's called "The question game" when I was younger, and I would run into shy chicks or untalkative women, this game works, because it generates interest.

The game is basically like truth or dare except no dare, you asks the girl a question she has to answer truthfully, then you asks her a question, any topic any thing u wanna talk about, the catch is you get 3 lifelines (like "how to be a millionare" whoever uses all of them loses.

some questions I like to asks off the bat

1.What do you prefer boxers or briefs?
2. What makes you smile?
3. What do you look for in a guy?
4. What makes you different from the next girl
5. Whats the craziest thing you ever done

etc etc, usually 3 things happen In my experince. 1. The girl gets into the game. 2. The game gets boring real quick or 3. Whatever happens happens

Enjoy

Solo
 

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the thing is i get the date arranged then split.. im talking about when they cancel and you have to rearrange a new time, this is when it gets iffy when u try to be firm and they're like 'let's talk so and so day' so u walk away not confirming anything and it's all up in the air speculatively.

how do u bypass these things in convo?

i know on monday when i need to make this call if she doesn't pick up im doomed.. cos i need to build some more rapport.. and she expected this funny guy who made her laugh and on the phone im this nervous wreck who's tryna date close asap and get out of the convo.
 

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Think less. Whenever you call a woman, use the 3 second rule.

That means when you think to call her, just do it. Within 3 seconds.

The panic/nervousness you describe is caused by overthinking things and thinking about calling someone is what causes this.

The phone is no harder than talking in person, in fact it's easier. If you can make a girl laugh in person, you can do it over the phone. If you can't, you either A) need to get smarter and wittier or B) need to get some confidence with talking to women in general.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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