Tips on how to improve my game in Norway

[Fireflame]

I'm an African man who recently emigrated to Norway 3 months ago to pursue master's.

Back in my country, I cold approached a lot and got some girls and girlfriends through that. But coming here everything seems to go downhill.

My success rate has dropped a lot - it's either a no or have a boyfriend as an excuse - and the few numbers I get lead to nowhere.

I'm out of ideas any tips on how to improve my situation?

 

[bat soup]

I'm an African man who recently emigrated to Norway 3 months ago to pursue master's.

Back in my country, I cold approached a lot and got some girls and girlfriends through that. But coming here everything seems to go downhill.

My success rate has dropped a lot - it's either a no or have a boyfriend as an excuse - and the few numbers I get lead to nowhere.

I'm out of ideas any tips on how to improve my situation?

Maybe you're a bit too intense for the local culture. Norwegians are very reserved and take time to get to know people. They probably just automatically say no to anyone that walks up to them on the street.

 

[damiancontrol]

Maybe try to get to know their culture first? You can just go into unfamiliar territory and expect to be handed cookies

 

[bat soup]

Once I was in Sweden and in a crowded restaurant I had to sit opposite a guy who was wearing a t-shirt that said "Arlanda Airport Terminal 3". So I asked him if he worked at the airport and he almost jumped out of his skin.

I don't really know Norway that well but Scandinavians in general are not easy people to get to know. Maybe if cold approach doesn't work so well there, try other ways of meeting people. The other alternative, of course, is to go to places where everyone is drunk.

 

[characternote]

Once I was in Sweden and in a crowded restaurant I had to sit opposite a guy who was wearing a t-shirt that said "Arlanda Airport Terminal 3". So I asked him if he worked at the airport and he almost jumped out of his skin.

I don't really know Norway that well but Scandinavians in general are not easy people to get to know. Maybe if cold approach doesn't work so well there, try other ways of meeting people. The other alternative, of course, is to go to places where everyone is drunk.

My sisters American friends visited us (UK) once and she was amazed at how averse to social interaction with strangers people are compared to where she was from. I remember she approached these 2 people sitting down at a bench in a park and asked if she could sit with them and they looked to be in a state of shock lol.

I guess the US is a hell of a lot friendlier to cold approach than the UK, and maybe Norway (i've never been) is even harder

 

[bat soup]

My sisters American friends visited us (UK) once and she was amazed at how averse to social interaction with strangers people are compared to where she was from. I remember she approached these 2 people sitting down at a bench in a park and asked if she could sit with them and they looked to be in a state of shock lol.

I guess the US is a hell of a lot friendlier to cold approach than the UK, and maybe Norway (i've never been) is even harder

I'm from the UK but I've spent quite a bit of time in the USA. What I find different in the USA is how common it is for total strangers to make conversation. At first I found it startling for some stranger to start talking to me as if they knew me. English people don't do that. But with time I got used to it. Every day the guy at Dunkin Donuts would ask me how my day was going and it didn't surprise me anymore.

On the other hand, it's kind of superficial and what I mean by that is that the person asking you how your day is going probably doesn't give a shiit about you or your day. It's just considered polite to make conversation. In the UK, if a person makes conversation it means that they are intersted and want to get to know you, wheareas in the USA it generally means nothing.

 

[Fireflame]

Maybe try to get to know their culture first? You can just go into unfamiliar territory and expect to be handed cookies

I think that might the reason why. Culture is unfamiliar to me so I don't know to go ahead. I guess learning the culture first would be the best solution.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Op I think you need to go to Brazil instead, the culture is a lot more social and open.