Tips on how to get back in the game after a break-up?

[Masculinity]

Hey fellas, I've been out for a few months after the break up with my ex.

It has been five months; I gained about ten pounds and I've been working on slimming back down; it was really hard to do while in school. I practically put my social life (meeting, banging chicks) on the side for the semester. I didn't really care what I looked like and pretty much just felt down.

This is my first break-up and I'm not sure how to get my skills sharp again. I was accepted into a summer course at a major university in southern California and I'm determined to make a big turn.

So far this week, I've:

-Been eating right.
-Doing cardio every day
-Doing strength training every other day
-Changing my way of thinking into the one that worked with girls before
-Confirmed I'm over my ex

I used to be pretty good with girls when I was 18 (when I met my ex). I had dates and girls were usually pretty good with me.
I don't know where that went. Any tips? Also, an experienced mentor in LA willing to help would be a great opportunity that I would highly value!

 

[Kirro]

The best thing I'd advise is to start talking to girls again. The more you do, the more your old skills will return & you may even begin to surpass them. Socialize, keep busy with hobbies, keep working on yourself & it will all come together.

 

[pdx1138]

your definitely on the right track!

just work your way into talking with more girls as suggested.

don't make it a huge priority, just ease into it.

I broke off a relationship 6 months ago and just started dating again 2 weeks ago.

 

[L B]

Still in school and surrounded by the ladies. Sounds like a good training ground for a single guy. Focus on school but keep an eye out for opportunities you ignored when you were attached to the ex.

 

[PDubb75]

I used to be pretty good with girls when I was 18 (when I met my ex). I had dates and girls were usually pretty good with me.
I don't know where that went. Any tips? Also, an experienced mentor in LA willing to help would be a great opportunity that I would highly value!

It went to the back of your mind. With the progress you've mad so far, it's just a matter of mindset at this point. Say you were pretty good at baseball, but then something came up and you didn't play for 3 years. It isn't gonna come flying back right away. You need to work back up to where you were.

First step is just to start doing some approaches. Getting back in the right frame of mind to approach girls, talk to them, pick up on any signals, etc is going to get you back on track.