Tips on how to be comfortable in being alone

[Tomo]

I am hitting a critical period of study; the hardest/ peak of my degree where I need to put my priorities right and that is into study. I know my good years are to come. At the same time, I messed up a first date and am bordering slight oneitis due to the amount of time I am spending alone to myself as I hit the books.

Anyone can help me out? I know at the moment I have a lack of female prospects and my skills are rusty but at the same time I cannot afford any time to be gaming woman at the moment. And that I think is the problem otherwise this oneitis would not develop as I kick myself of how I screwed up and how her male friend is most likely the one screwing her now.

Anyone have tips on keeping my head in the game and fixed and focused on the bigger picture? It is funny how the battle before it begins, is most hardest with yourself.

So far what free time I have is focused on physical activities to de-stress. I've deleted all forms of social media and the likes in distractions. I guess I am one of those guys that lives in his head a lot and over thinks.

 

[Tomo]

Thanks bud, logic is finally creeping back into me. I definately took everything you said on board after some reflection it is amusing how give your mind an inch and it will blow up in a mile. My priorities definately need to lie where they matter.

If any dudes are in my boat, one thing I also strongly suggest is simply getting out there again socially and plates wise. I guess as hard as one does dwelling in books, one needs that balance. I got myself out, popped into the shops and number closed a HB from another franchise where I work. Added that to initiating conversation with a few other female friends, banter with the guys and it's like a new me.

 

[latinnova]

If you are so busy that you can not see other people, then you shouldn't even have to be thinking about being lonely because you are so busy, seriously. That is the point. That is why on there everyone preaches to have all sorts of hobbies, so that one does not get bored and lonely. Then the ladies know you don't give a fook and they will be drawn towards you.

You can still spin some plates while you are in your studies, I sure as hell do. They know I'm busy and on the weekends I get hit up for invites to their house to take care of their primitive desires. These are great relationships to me. I don't have to deal with any bullsh!t (b!tching, whining, nagging.... eg. ex wife) and only go there to satisfy the plates primitive desires and get out. They know upfront what I'm about, thats that.

 

[zekko]

If any dudes are in my boat, one thing I also strongly suggest is simply getting out there again socially and plates wise.

Didn't you just say that you didn't have time to be gaming women right now? Which is it?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Being single when you study is probably the best state you can be in, for yourself. I was purposely single throughout my degree; I probably wouldn't have one otherwise.

Don't worry about not having a woman by your side/in your life right now. You are investing in yourself for the future and it will be of benefit to your future game to have qualifications and success.

That's not to say you shouldn't go out and have fun. In fact it's probably essential that you do. Just like over-indulging your mind with women, trying to live in a permanent saturation of study will also be detrimental to the ultimate cause.

Take yourself out once a week as a treat away from the books and your studying environments. Physical endeavour is a good and admirable distraction, but also tiring when you are also mentally drained from study.

Go out once a week, get wasted, chat to women, even try to get laid. But when you wake in the morning, be strict and get back to your schedule. Sometimes letting your hair down for a few hours is the only way to truly relax and restart.