"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tips for improving appearance?

nubian-knight

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one thing that constantly gets in the way of my game is preoccupation with my appearance...i always see ppl posting up pics asking for advice on improving themselves and ive seen great follow advice (hairstyles ppl think suit the person, etc)


im clueless as to what women find attractive....how do i look?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You look good... u should grow a Gotee, and why do u smoke? :\
 

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nubian-knight said:
one thing that constantly gets in the way of my game is preoccupation with my appearance...i always see ppl posting up pics asking for advice on improving themselves and ive seen great follow advice (hairstyles ppl think suit the person, etc)


im clueless as to what women find attractive....how do i look?

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You have a good look and an ok style.

If you was me (you have to accept people have different tastes).

If your going for shirts, stick to plain ones, go for colours that match your look, me I go for black or blue shirts (black nice fitting shirt to suit my frame or a nice blue to match my eyes (yeh you heard it((.

Also the jacket is not really doing anything for me, looks too much like a mac.
I think you would be better suited if you go for a jacket, with something more casual looking and not a rain deterrent type look.
Possibly a nice fitting sexy denim or leather (not typical black though) designer jacket.

I also don’t personally like trousers, I would ditch them for good fitting loose jeans or some slacks that look casual and cool.

Also if your going to wear a shirt, the john trevoulter look does not do it for me, with the coller turned up, it seems to how can I say trying to look ‘bad’, this is ok but the rest of the attire needs to look like that also, but this was so 60’s.

Me I wear a shirt or a top casual one colour plain that fits my frame very well, jeans and nice shoes or trainers that suit.

I normally don’t go for labels, the most important thing is if the cloths fit and they look good on you.

Now a break down on your style which I consider average.
Shirt looks too much like a set of curtains, awful colours and they clash.
The trousers look like they could be possible free hand outs at the local Mc’D’s.
The jacket looks like its going to rain indoors.

I am not trying to be anal just giving an honest opinion, as this is what you wanted, right??

The hair style ok the look ok the rest ok but the cloths can look a hell of a lot better.

You dress plain, you can do a lot better.

If you want ideas look at other guys with your colour and there dress sense and how some look the bizz, copy there style and I mean the guys you know that are about that just look Good, not hard the best model is in-fact people around you, you see some guy looking good in what he as on, steal the style, the developed from there.

what this guy as on is a good example of casual with cloths that match.

http://images.google.co.uk/imgres?i...8mYbaWsM:&tbnh=120&tbnw=72&prev=/images?q=cas
 
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One thing I'd suggest is dropping the layers of clothing and wearing something that flatters your figure a bit more and gives you more sex appeal.

Jonwon gives some good advice there. I definitely agree on sticking to plain colours.

But generally, the same advice goes to you as to everyone else - look after yourself, work out, eat right, moisturise your skin, drink plenty of water and so on.
 

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The biggest thing I stress with anyone is this: figure out what you want to look like. Go look at men's magazines like GQ and Esquire, or look at stars you admire and see how they're dressing. That will give you a start. Once you get the look down, wear an outfit that screams "this is how I dress/who I am" and get your hair cut by an attractive woman, simply telling her to make you look good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jonwon thanks alot for the tips bro but can you do me a favour and edit my pic out of your post?


my girl prowls through my computer and i dont want her coming across this thread on me asking for advice :nervous:
 

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If your Budget isn't to tight I would Suggest going out and getting a few dress shirts, you never know you might find yourself goingto club with the guys, and you wanna look good, before going. mess up the hair a but, Goatie would look awsome, and Don't let smoking bring you down. I smoke, and I haven't lost yet. Chow

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I forgot to add, Try and get a bit of highlights, for your hair, and when wearing dress shirts, find something to go over it, Maybe a nice tee with a logo or saying on it, to hide the buttons. Looks different I know, And you can even do it with hoodless sweaters, looks good, Hides any scars, burns what ever that might be showing.
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nubian-knight said:
jonwon thanks alot for the tips bro but can you do me a favour and edit my pic out of your post?


my girl prowls through my computer and i dont want her coming across this thread on me asking for advice :nervous:
np:cool:
 

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wanna know what girls want? they want a guy who has more money than the other guys in their environment. simple as that. see, a dude who wears dirty old rags is considered "colorful" or "eccentric" if he has money, if he doesn't he is just a "bum" or "disgusting". how many times do you hear people refer to howard hughes as being a disgusting bum? uh, never. he was eccentric and unique. same goes for the hundreds of freakish rich dudes who go by the beat of their own drummer.

if you have more money than the other dudes in her environment you will be cool no matter what way you go. wear a parka in the middle of the summer and you will be "a trend setter". color your hair green and you will be "stylish". it doesn't matter.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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