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Tips for hitting on chicks in a grad school setting

Lexington

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I could be wrong here, but does this seem like a potential pickup bonanza?

I'll be starting my second year of med school. There will be a brand new class of about 150 joining our ranks. There are going to be a lot of stressed-out and worried girls. They'll be freaking out about whether or not they can cope with the rigors of med school etc. They'll also be adapting to a new place and new routines etc.

I gotta try and make this work because I'm usually quite busy and I don't get many avenues to meet new women.

Most of these girls will probably be desperate for the guidance of us older students and since they're new, they'll most likely be quite receptive of strangers.

My biggest problem with chicks is that I often fall into the small talk trap and then I end up being perceived more as a friend. I want to get in there and let my intentions be known.

While other guys just give girls the same old advice, my plan is to try and get a laugh out of them by making light of their situation. Once I get 'em laughing and less stressed, that'll be my chance to get to know them a little.

What's the best way to transition out of the small talk into the more romantic, flirty side of things? How do I let them know, "hey I don't wanna be friends, I wanna make you my girl?"

Any advice is much appreciated. Thanks.
 

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I did the grad school thing a few years back.

The law school I went to had "Bar Review" nights at local watering holes. I'm sure the med school you're at does the same thing. Go to the first few of those. The setting should loosen things up a little bit and get people into an environment where they're not seeing you as just a fellow classmate.

And for the love of christ, don't sit there and talk about school the entire time. There was nothing worse than being out trying to enjoy a drink and some balls-for-brains can't shut up about some class he's in or case that he read.
 

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I dunno, my best successes in grad school (I did an MBA) came with women in other schools. I think it's hard to date within a grad program, but any guy getting a professional degree can run riot in the rest of the graduate programs.

If I were you, I'd be raiding women in the humanities programs and social science programs. And the law school was very good to me.
 
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