Tips for guys who aren't that good looking

[skinnyguy]

I really feel for the guys here who are below average looking and have never had a gf. I've been there and I know it really feels like you are powerless. So I've put together a list of things that have helped me in the past:

Nightlife

Generally, you should not go to bars and clubs, because you'll come back depressed that you couldn't get any. Bars and clubs are 100% about looks, so this is not ideal. Rather, try these:

1) Comedy clubs
2) Dance classes (if you are ok with dancing)
3) Starting a meet up group. Start a group like "Dinner with new friends", and you'll have people coming to meet YOU! It's great because it gives you instant status as the group organizer. A great way to meet people.

Daygame

1) The gym. Yes, it'll be tough, because if you're not ripped you won't get much attention. But I think that it is good practice. Remember that rejections are good if they make you grow. Also, chicks at the gym aren't that likely to completely blow you off. They might engage in some sort of conversation (they always have with me).
2) Art galleries
3) Sports (I prefer golf and tennis, but whatever floats your boat). If anything, it will get you out of your room and in the sunlight which improves your mood.

Facebook

1) Put up photos of you looking really happy with your friends. There doesn't necessarily have to be women in them. I think that chicks dig when you are having a great time, so this is important.
2) Show that you like animals, or that you volunteer for a particular cause. If you feed the homeless, post pics of you doing that.

 

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I really feel for the guys here who are below average looking and have never had a gf. I've been there and I know it really feels like you are powerless. So I've put together a list of things that have helped me in the past:

Nightlife

Generally, you should not go to bars and clubs, because you'll come back depressed that you couldn't get any. Bars and clubs are 100% about looks, so this is not ideal. Rather, try these:

1) Comedy clubs
2) Dance classes (if you are ok with dancing)
3) Starting a meet up group. Start a group like "Dinner with new friends", and you'll have people coming to meet YOU! It's great because it gives you instant status as the group organizer. A great way to meet people.

Daygame

1) The gym. Yes, it'll be tough, because if you're not ripped you won't get much attention. But I think that it is good practice. Remember that rejections are good if they make you grow. Also, chicks at the gym aren't that likely to completely blow you off. They might engage in some sort of conversation (they always have with me).
2) Art galleries
3) Sports (I prefer golf and tennis, but whatever floats your boat). If anything, it will get you out of your room and in the sunlight which improves your mood.

Facebook

1) Put up photos of you looking really happy with your friends. There doesn't necessarily have to be women in them. I think that chicks dig when you are having a great time, so this is important.
2) Show that you like animals, or that you volunteer for a particular cause. If you feed the homeless, post pics of you doing that.

:crackup:

 

[LiveFreeX]

Also, go abroad.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I shouldn't Ask This...

Define or post pictures of an ugly guy. Mystery, Tyler Durden, Neil Strauss, and some other well known PUAs aren't guys I think women would find classically handsome like Channing Tatum, Ryan Gossling, Bradley Cooper, Christian Bale, or Justin Bieber. Also pimps aren't classically handsome, but these dudes not only can f*ck a b*tch whenever he wants, the pimp has that hoe PAYING HIM. Though looks do play a part, a lot of it has to do with how crisp your mouthpiece is and how you make a chick feel.

 

[foreverAFC]

if you are an ugly guy, other than making lots of money your best option is hitting the gym, i have an unattractive face but some women will still look at me and give me IOIs just cause im in shape, ive been lifting and doing martial arts for over 10 years now

i think plenty of women will find a man attractive simply for being in shape and masculine, even if his face isnt great

 

[skinnyguy]

if you are an ugly guy, other than making lots of money your best option is hitting the gym, i have an unattractive face but some women will still look at me and give me IOIs just cause im in shape, ive been lifting and doing martial arts for over 10 years now

i think plenty of women will find a man attractive simply for being in shape and masculine, even if his face isnt great

True. That takes a hell of a lot of time though, I'm just saying what can you do *now* if you're not that attractive.

David DeAngelo is a lot better looking than some ugly guys out there, and I'm sure Neil Strauss is too so they have a leg up. Some guys are just flat out bad looking and no matter how much they try they can't look good. I think people here tend to blame them for being ugly, which I think is unfair. They just didn't win the genetic lottery like Channing Tatum.

 

[foreverAFC]

True. That takes a hell of a lot of time though, I'm just saying what can you do *now* if you're not that attractive.

well in my opinion theres not much you can do other than keeping yourself looking clean and well groomed. working out may take some time, but not as long as some people think. if you commit to working out and hit the gym two or three times a week for just an hour you will see noticeable results within a few months. but if you are half assing it and taking weeks off and not working out your entire body then yeah wont get results. you have to really want it and approach it correctly. it should jsut be a part of your weekly routine, there should be two or three nights in the week that you know are gym nights, and after work thats were you gotta go on those nights. if you have a gym at work even better.

improving your physical appearance through resistance training in my experience has made the most difference for me. most women are in poor physical shape, even very beautiful ones, many have never worked out once in their lives, so a guy who is in good shape is very noticeable to a lot of them. im telling you guys its really the only thing that makes a huge difference other than coming into a lot of money. im not talking about serious muscle mass either, you dont have to big, you just have to be in shape. you could be very slender but as long as you are toned and look active its enough to attract some females.

 

[zekko]

Define or post pictures of an ugly guy. Mystery, Tyler Durden, Neil Strauss, and some other well known PUAs aren't guys I think women would find classically handsome

Yeah, but look how much time they've put into picking up women. In many cases, these gurus are out picking up girls in lieu of an actual job. If you did nothing but try to pick up women every night you'd be hard pressed not to end up with at least some success (numbers game).

Anyway, Mystery is tall and dominant looking. Strauss is the only one of the three that I would actually consider ugly, but maybe women might find him appealing, he's not fat for instance. Besides, he had an interesting and glamorous job, author and writer for Rolling Stone, for instance.

I figure I'm probably average looking, maybe a little better than average since I'm in shape. I find that I do better with women in situations where I can get my personality on display, where I can actually get some interacting in, since in most cases my looks aren't strong enough to pull on their own. Usually women tend to be attracted to who I am rather than what I look like, otherwise they'd be going out with a model or something.

 

[sambwoy]

Again as I put once before, 'unattractive' to me are those who are labelled as such by society- a slovenly guy who doesn't wash is another matter that can be controlled. What is the, say, guy is the wheelchair or the burns victim supposed to do? Sit around and act like a shut-in because others have dictated your position in society. How can you live like that? If a girl has body image problems, society will hold out their hand to catch them. Not if you're a guy it seems. I don't know if this is another one of these things that are just due to social conditioning and gender roles.

All it comes down to I guess is guys just want wild and hot.
It hurts when you were in your late teens-early 20s and wanted to get with the slutty chicks but got pushed out. That feeling of not belonging haunts you.

 

[latino158]

stupidest advice ever

tips for guys are not that good looking

- get a good haircut
- workout
- invest on good clothes
- get surgery if required
- wear foundation

 

[rascal99v]

1) Put up photos of you looking really happy with your friends. There doesn't necessarily have to be women in them. I think that chicks dig when you are having a great time, so this is important.
2) Show that you like animals, or that you volunteer for a particular cause. If you feed the homeless, post pics of you doing that.

How would any of this help an ugly guy?

Chicks won't care if some ugly guy is looking happy with his friends. Why would they? Feeding the homeless? :crackup: Now, you are endorsing men to pander to chicks.

Ugly guy feeding the homeless

Chick's reaction: "Oh that's nice." She moves on

See, what I mean? They don't care.

If you're ugly and you want to get a lot of chicks, here is what you do

Become famous or get a job that makes a lot of money, then you will have a lot of chicks.

 

[bigneil]

Everyone is good looking when they achieve optimal health.

Start fasting. Eat 50% raw and 50% green. Get most of your calories from high-quality sources of fats, and locally grown vegetables.

 

[skinnyguy]

How would any of this help an ugly guy?

Chicks won't care if some ugly guy is looking happy with his friends. Why would they? Feeding the homeless? :crackup: Now, you are endorsing men to pander to chicks.

Ugly guy feeding the homeless

Chick's reaction: "Oh that's nice." She moves on

See, what I mean? They don't care.

If you're ugly and you want to get a lot of chicks, here is what you do

Become famous or get a job that makes a lot of money, then you will have a lot of chicks.

Actually, you're wrong.

I have seen fat, sloppy guys get decent looking women by playing the social circle game. If a girl believes you have social value, all of a sudden you become more attractive to her. That's why I think it's great advice to get a lot of guy friends and just get involved. The worst thing you can do is sit at home on Friday night. If you're not pulling women, go out there and meet dudes who can bring you up.

And if you're passionate about something that makes you even more attractive. I forgot to add "start playing an instrument and get gigs".

 

[Nickface]

Agreed. I actually think the OP is onto something. I found the single best thing I did to meet women was join meetup. I like to run and meet up for coed sports events. It raised my game up ten fold. It honestly does not matter how good looking you really are. You have to remain confident and meet as many people as possible. It's about the numbers. The more people you meet, the "lucky" you will get. It's logic fellas.

 

[sambwoy]

How would any of this help an ugly guy?

Chicks won't care if some ugly guy is looking happy with his friends. Why would they? Feeding the homeless? :crackup: Now, you are endorsing men to pander to chicks.

Ugly guy feeding the homeless

Chick's reaction: "Oh that's nice." She moves on

See, what I mean? They don't care.

If you're ugly and you want to get a lot of chicks, here is what you do

Become famous or get a job that makes a lot of money, then you will have a lot of chicks.

I can relate to this frustration...being brought up on a system of unconditional love, forcefully being made into a servant of the politically correct to appease a state, where no-one gives a sh^t about your wellbeing. Why? What is it good for? Not what creates attraction though, is it?

This whole thing is just loopy. As someone who has experience of none of this working, I can't imagine having to feed my kids the same pack of lies.