Topic says it all, really, like tips for how you can be an azzhole in conversation and in your actions without going too far. I'm tired of being the nice guy that gets pushed around. The girls show obvious interest in me, but I'm too bashful to take it a step farther... what are some tips that have worked for you guys?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Tips for being an *******?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Vice
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Work out. Head to the gym; when you exercise your testosterone levels go up, as well as aggression.
I also found that my aggression went up after playing GTA IV, I wasn't afrai to say '**** you' to someone who said something disrespectful.
I also found that my aggression went up after playing GTA IV, I wasn't afrai to say '**** you' to someone who said something disrespectful.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
also found that my aggression went up after playing GTA IV, I wasn't afrai to say '**** you' to someone who said something disrespectful.
THIS IS GREAT..
i picked up mine today. i guess i better get to playing
THIS IS GREAT..
i picked up mine today. i guess i better get to playing
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Stop being a nice guy. That's your remedy.
Just don't kiss azz and suck up anymore. That's really all you're doing. You're wanting to fit in and be accepted by not taking up room, making waves, and not being heard.
Who cares? When you do that, you give away all your power. All the power you could have in each and every situation. Don't let people take that from you. Basically you're handing it over to them. You're putting yourself beneath them. So, just say whatever the fvck you want and stop being a placater and people pleaser.
It's time that you lived your life the way you want to. When you stop being that nice guy that you are is when others will actually notice you and start respecting you.
Respect yourself, and others will follow.
No body pushes you around.
Just don't kiss azz and suck up anymore. That's really all you're doing. You're wanting to fit in and be accepted by not taking up room, making waves, and not being heard.
Who cares? When you do that, you give away all your power. All the power you could have in each and every situation. Don't let people take that from you. Basically you're handing it over to them. You're putting yourself beneath them. So, just say whatever the fvck you want and stop being a placater and people pleaser.
It's time that you lived your life the way you want to. When you stop being that nice guy that you are is when others will actually notice you and start respecting you.
Respect yourself, and others will follow.
No body pushes you around.
theunflushables
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Speak your mind. When something pisses you off make sure people know it. Don't be afraid of hurting peoples feelings.
...Only on sosuave can you find teenagers talking about "testosterone wonderdrugs" *shudders*. You DONT NEED TESTOSTERONE ENHANCERS for the next 30 years, if you watch your health!!!
Anyways about the Russian stereotype: Russia and its people cannot be understood, cannot be measured, can only be believed in (Fyodor Tutchev, by the way). Keep that in mind. I've noticed this: half of us are thugs, half are nerds. And nothing in between. ALMOST. BUT, those Russians who can successfully combine elements of BOTH - they make it BIG in life, in all aspects. We have the "intelighe'nt" and "bandit" in us. Don't swing to either extreme. Be both of them in right amounts. That's what I'm reminding to do as much as possible, its a perfect combo trust me.
Anyways about the Russian stereotype: Russia and its people cannot be understood, cannot be measured, can only be believed in (Fyodor Tutchev, by the way). Keep that in mind. I've noticed this: half of us are thugs, half are nerds. And nothing in between. ALMOST. BUT, those Russians who can successfully combine elements of BOTH - they make it BIG in life, in all aspects. We have the "intelighe'nt" and "bandit" in us. Don't swing to either extreme. Be both of them in right amounts. That's what I'm reminding to do as much as possible, its a perfect combo trust me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Hmmm...i see a problem with that. Next time a school is shot up, the blame will be fully attributed to GTA 4.Vice said:
Good advice.theunflushables said:
I was a nice guy too (am still a nice guy but I don't take sh1t when I don't like it). If you are in a conversation, try to control the flow of it instead of letting the girl flap her gums for hours while you nod and smile like an idiot. Ask her different things, about what she thinks on this and that, things that tend to annoy you on your everyday life. Praise her when you like her answer and lightly poke her and make fun of her if you think her way of thinking is twisted.
Also don't be afraid to talk about things you want to talk about. If you let a chick flap her gums and speak on some boring topic that you couldn't care much about, she should at least give you the common courtesty when you want to talk about something that interests you. Don't be afraid to be vocal and if you feel that this girl is only talking about herself and her interests without paying attention to what you like then ditch the b1tch.
The point is that if you want to get notice you got to dive in and make something happen then stand by the sideline and be a nice guy. Most of the conversations really involves you listening to her and reply with short answers or questions while she does most of the talking. Women love to talk too much anyway and most of the time its meaningless conversation about nothing.