Topic says it all, really, like tips for how you can be an azzhole in conversation and in your actions without going too far. I'm tired of being the nice guy that gets pushed around. The girls show obvious interest in me, but I'm too bashful to take it a step farther... what are some tips that have worked for you guys?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tips for being an *******?
- Thread starter Brighty
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Vice
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Work out. Head to the gym; when you exercise your testosterone levels go up, as well as aggression.
I also found that my aggression went up after playing GTA IV, I wasn't afrai to say '**** you' to someone who said something disrespectful.
I also found that my aggression went up after playing GTA IV, I wasn't afrai to say '**** you' to someone who said something disrespectful.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
also found that my aggression went up after playing GTA IV, I wasn't afrai to say '**** you' to someone who said something disrespectful.
THIS IS GREAT..
i picked up mine today. i guess i better get to playing
THIS IS GREAT..
i picked up mine today. i guess i better get to playing
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Stop being a nice guy. That's your remedy.
Just don't kiss azz and suck up anymore. That's really all you're doing. You're wanting to fit in and be accepted by not taking up room, making waves, and not being heard.
Who cares? When you do that, you give away all your power. All the power you could have in each and every situation. Don't let people take that from you. Basically you're handing it over to them. You're putting yourself beneath them. So, just say whatever the fvck you want and stop being a placater and people pleaser.
It's time that you lived your life the way you want to. When you stop being that nice guy that you are is when others will actually notice you and start respecting you.
Respect yourself, and others will follow.
No body pushes you around.
Just don't kiss azz and suck up anymore. That's really all you're doing. You're wanting to fit in and be accepted by not taking up room, making waves, and not being heard.
Who cares? When you do that, you give away all your power. All the power you could have in each and every situation. Don't let people take that from you. Basically you're handing it over to them. You're putting yourself beneath them. So, just say whatever the fvck you want and stop being a placater and people pleaser.
It's time that you lived your life the way you want to. When you stop being that nice guy that you are is when others will actually notice you and start respecting you.
Respect yourself, and others will follow.
No body pushes you around.
theunflushables
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Speak your mind. When something pisses you off make sure people know it. Don't be afraid of hurting peoples feelings.
...Only on sosuave can you find teenagers talking about "testosterone wonderdrugs" *shudders*. You DONT NEED TESTOSTERONE ENHANCERS for the next 30 years, if you watch your health!!!
Anyways about the Russian stereotype: Russia and its people cannot be understood, cannot be measured, can only be believed in (Fyodor Tutchev, by the way). Keep that in mind. I've noticed this: half of us are thugs, half are nerds. And nothing in between. ALMOST. BUT, those Russians who can successfully combine elements of BOTH - they make it BIG in life, in all aspects. We have the "intelighe'nt" and "bandit" in us. Don't swing to either extreme. Be both of them in right amounts. That's what I'm reminding to do as much as possible, its a perfect combo trust me.
Anyways about the Russian stereotype: Russia and its people cannot be understood, cannot be measured, can only be believed in (Fyodor Tutchev, by the way). Keep that in mind. I've noticed this: half of us are thugs, half are nerds. And nothing in between. ALMOST. BUT, those Russians who can successfully combine elements of BOTH - they make it BIG in life, in all aspects. We have the "intelighe'nt" and "bandit" in us. Don't swing to either extreme. Be both of them in right amounts. That's what I'm reminding to do as much as possible, its a perfect combo trust me.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Hmmm...i see a problem with that. Next time a school is shot up, the blame will be fully attributed to GTA 4.Vice said:
Good advice.theunflushables said:
I was a nice guy too (am still a nice guy but I don't take sh1t when I don't like it). If you are in a conversation, try to control the flow of it instead of letting the girl flap her gums for hours while you nod and smile like an idiot. Ask her different things, about what she thinks on this and that, things that tend to annoy you on your everyday life. Praise her when you like her answer and lightly poke her and make fun of her if you think her way of thinking is twisted.
Also don't be afraid to talk about things you want to talk about. If you let a chick flap her gums and speak on some boring topic that you couldn't care much about, she should at least give you the common courtesty when you want to talk about something that interests you. Don't be afraid to be vocal and if you feel that this girl is only talking about herself and her interests without paying attention to what you like then ditch the b1tch.
The point is that if you want to get notice you got to dive in and make something happen then stand by the sideline and be a nice guy. Most of the conversations really involves you listening to her and reply with short answers or questions while she does most of the talking. Women love to talk too much anyway and most of the time its meaningless conversation about nothing.