"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tips for beating this

ye yeah

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long story short,starting to get mild one-itis,and need to "overcome it" before i can talk to this girl anymore,any tips on what to do?

and i cant full stop talking to her for a bit,cause her bday is in 3 days and her party is in 5 so i hafto be there,what else can i do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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oneitis? were you ever with her?

if not, you REALLY have to ditch this pattern. no more "i wonder if..." - just ask her out. and if it's no, then there's a good excuse to ending the relationship so you can end your oneitis.

SERIOUSLY - NO MORE WONDERING. ASK HER OUT and get a yes or no. but that's for the future.

for now, it's only a week. what's the big deal. after that, TRY TO STAY AWAY! that is indeed the best medicine. and get involved in stuff that you're into or find another chick. being around her is no good.

and if it gets to a point where she's wondering what's happening to the relationship- THEN, you ask her out. and if she says no, you have a good point to terminate the relationship.

delta
 

ye yeah

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yeah i know what ya's mean,nah never was with her although we got pretty close,and she didnt give me a yes or no cause my ex is her best friend,

im in a hard situation.

her bday is in a few days.and she is having a party 2 days after it and im invited (so far)

and she seems cut at me at the moment, who knows? with women

and my ex is cut at me for some mean things i said about her (nothing unforgivable) and they hang out 24/7 so obviously i cant have 1 good and the other not,so how do i go about this? i gotta try avoid her,while txting her to say happy bday,and going to her party (if she tells me the address if she dosent well guess she dosent want me there if she dosent mention it)

how do i get in my exes good books? while avoiding both to get over one-itis? lol it takes time,wont be too hard cept i have to see her at her party.

how hard
 
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