"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tip that I heard on dating programme

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So this guy said you look at the left eye, then right eye and then her lips and then back to eyes. Apparently it creates sexual tention. He used it to a waitress he was telling about it and she basically got all flustered and said it worked. Anyone ever heard of this?
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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pretty sure on DJ bibble have something like that, try to read it :)
 

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Have used this before. Its using the triangle of their eyes and mouth. I also use other parts of their body to look/briefly stare at. For ex thir ankles in high heels.

I used this about three months ago, several times, with a woman who I knew didnt like me. Escalated it, got her to get over the anger and closed the deal.

I asked her a few subtle questions after and she mentioned the looks and stares I have her 'triangle' and other parts of her body. Women believe men are slower on picking up on the eye contact, (we can be), and so think WE dont notice them noticing what we are doing.

It is actually one of the stronger tools in my gurl hunting pouch. But I dont smile at them when Ive done this. I just look thoughtful to myself, then carry on chatting. Pure gold.
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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Have used this before. Its using the triangle of their eyes and mouth. I also use other parts of their body to look/briefly stare at. For ex thir ankles in high heels.

I used this about three months ago, several times, with a woman who I knew didnt like me. Escalated it, got her to get over the anger and closed the deal.

I asked her a few subtle questions after and she mentioned the looks and stares I have her 'triangle' and other parts of her body. Women believe men are slower on picking up on the eye contact, (we can be), and so think WE dont notice them noticing what we are doing.

It is actually one of the stronger tools in my gurl hunting pouch. But I dont smile at them when Ive done this. I just look thoughtful to myself, then carry on chatting. Pure gold.
What effect do you think it has on them?
 

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The effect is that it subtly conveys your interest in a more Alpha as opposed to beta way. It should be used in conjunction with other body language. I don't get results if I lean forward, laugh at everything she says and stare at her t1ts. Men think they need to be overt in relaying their interest, but covert and subtle is more useful IMO.

Remember, its not just the message that she wants to get, it's the way you communicate it to her.
 

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@HeadLightsOn

Interesting post

I struggle with aloofness on dates.

I m curious on how u combine aloofness with physical escalation?
 

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ubercat - Do you come across too friendly, too needy, too eager? What is the exact dynamic you show when on a date?
When you say aloofness, are you referring to being chilled and nonchalant?

Let me know and I'll post what I can.
 

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I stumbled across this technique quite by accident a couple decades ago. It definitely works. It is a "tell" (in other words, it broadcasts your interest to her), but it is hugely exciting to her. Essentially it gets her thinking about kissing you. You can use it as a tease with no payoff (as long as you don't make it seem like you're afraid to pull the trigger) or you can use it as a prelude to moving in for the kiss. Either way it's powerful stuff. It is true that the triangle aspect seems to be the right way to pull it off. One eye, then the other, then the mouth. Repeat as necessary.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The triangle gaze - note NOT stare - is a great way to gauge interest.

Looking into a persons eyes is a strong and powerful indicator of communication and interest. Swapping down to the mouth and back up to the eyes, works well from my experience. A couple of things:

- Don't look at the bridge of the nose as this can come across as a stare. A stare is threatening as opposed to a 'look.'
- To start, get your body posture correct (if your sitting on a date scenario). I like to tilt my head back slightly, lean back and briefly look into EACH EYE SEPARATELY. Don't try to look at both eyes at the same time. Swap briefly down to her mouth, then back to her eye(s).
- When I do this, I'm trying to gauge her interest. If she only looks back briefly, or takes a quick glance at me, she is just doing the same - testing the waters.
- The look should start briefly but as you listen to her, (you've asked her open ended questions right?), let her get the chance to look at you. As your conversation progresses, the looks will become longer, by each of you and this should indicate a level of interest.
- Glance away while you think of an answer, but don't look down. Always glance sideways.
- Also if you're looking at a woman across a bar for eg, if she looks at you then looks down,then back, that is interest. If she looks away in a horizontal plane,then back,she's not sure.

I studied quite a lot on body language for a previous job I had. It has been some of the best feathers in my quiver to date for dating/pickup.

I also highly recommend utilising your look tactics during day game. On the streets of NYC I had amazing results using this. Simply looking (in a non creepy way) into a woman's eyes on the street, instead of ignoring everyone as you walk around, is very powerful and can lead to great contact. As you can tell I find this topic fascinating and try to use it in business and for the bedroom.
 

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The triangle gaze - note NOT stare - is a great way to gauge interest.

Looking into a persons eyes is a strong and powerful indicator of communication and interest. Swapping down to the mouth and back up to the eyes, works well from my experience. A couple of things:

- Don't look at the bridge of the nose as this can come across as a stare. A stare is threatening as opposed to a 'look.'
- To start, get your body posture correct (if your sitting on a date scenario). I like to tilt my head back slightly, lean back and briefly look into EACH EYE SEPARATELY. Don't try to look at both eyes at the same time. Swap briefly down to her mouth, then back to her eye(s).
- When I do this, I'm trying to gauge her interest. If she only looks back briefly, or takes a quick glance at me, she is just doing the same - testing the waters.
- The look should start briefly but as you listen to her, (you've asked her open ended questions right?), let her get the chance to look at you. As your conversation progresses, the looks will become longer, by each of you and this should indicate a level of interest.
- Glance away while you think of an answer, but don't look down. Always glance sideways.
- Also if you're looking at a woman across a bar for eg, if she looks at you then looks down,then back, that is interest. If she looks away in a horizontal plane,then back,she's not sure.

I studied quite a lot on body language for a previous job I had. It has been some of the best feathers in my quiver to date for dating/pickup.

I also highly recommend utilising your look tactics during day game. On the streets of NYC I had amazing results using this. Simply looking (in a non creepy way) into a woman's eyes on the street, instead of ignoring everyone as you walk around, is very powerful and can lead to great contact. As you can tell I find this topic fascinating and try to use it in business and for the bedroom.
Any material you could recommend? I agree it's pretty fascinating and have been meaning to read up on it. It's essentially a second language/form of communication that we all have in our repertoire and I would imagine it's pretty easy to learn.
 
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