tip of the day

[check_mate_kid_uk]

i was reading the tip of the day that i get emailed to me everday, and the other day i saw a very good article, im sure some others of you have seen it but for the benefit of those of you who have not, i will repost it here because you really should read this.



TIP OF THE DAY


** The Turn-A-Round **


Often, when a girl gets mad at a guy for something he did, the guy
totally blows it by begging her for her forgiveness. This gives her
all the power and keeps him in the wrong.

There is a way to turn this around though. So much so that you doing
something wrong can actually be a good thing!

The trick is to first not show any guilt, don't let her know you feel
like you did something wrong. Secondly you need to find something you
can be mad at her about and focus on that. When a girl is put on the
defensive it's amazing how quickly they can forget about how mad they
were at you. All they will be thinking about is how to not have you
upset with them. They will in turn end up begging you for your
forgiveness.

For example, the other night, this girl who I don't know got on the
computer WITH my girlfriend and her friend right there. I, of course,
had no clue my girlfriend was right there reading everything I said.

This girl started asking me questions, one of which was if I was
dating anybody. I said I was dating a few girls. She then let me
know that she knew my girlfriend and that she was sitting right there
with her reading what I said. They apparently were trying to find out
bad stuff about me so that my girlfriend wouldn't get hurt.

After that I was thinking, oh crap, I screwed myself this time. I had
three girls extremely pissed off at me, and the girl that I'm involved
with went into another room crying.

At first all I could think to do was to call her up and apologize.
Meanwhile the girls went over to another house so I had some time to
think of what I should do. The main thing that came to my mind was
that I was losing control, that the girl was getting the ball in her
court.

I needed to step up and take the control back.

How could I do this? I had three girls extremely pissed off at me,
not to mention the fact that I was made a fool of by the way I got
played. Then it came to me, I could dump her right then and there!
Drastic you think? Maybe, but I had a feeling it would turn things
around.

When the girl got back on instant messenger I started things off with,
"OK, I'm sorry you got hurt, but you know that shouldn't have hurt
you. You know how I feel about you. But I'm not going to give you
any excuses for me dating other girls, because I don't need to. If
you are going to be like this now there's no way I can be with you.
For one thing, I have a zero tolerance for girls that play stupid
games like that. Secondly, you do not trust me."

What this did was focus the wrong on her. I acted mad at her because
she played a game on me, and I was not going to put up with it. I
then said "I'm breaking this off right now. You're getting too far
into this. I've been trying to take it slow with you so that you
wouldn't get hurt, but you are. I was dating other girls way before
me and you got involved."

This worked perfectly.

First, it showed that I didn't need her, that I had other girls, and
she ended up begging me not to be mad at her and leave her. Later on
in the night I talked to the other girls that were mad at me. What I
did with them was chew them out for playing a stupid game like that; I
acted like I was extremely pissed. They ended up actually pleading
with me not to be mad at them.

I couldn't believe how well I was actually able to turn things around.
I started off with the girl I'm dating ready to leave me, and her two
friends pissed off at me. By the end of the night the girl had begged
me to not be upset with her and to not leave her, and her two friends
were actually relieved that I forgave them.

Let this be a lesson, guys. You are THE MAN; you have the power to
take things wherever you choose. Do not let yourselves be controlled
by women. Never beg; never give in out of fear that you will loose
them. Force them to give in out of fear that they will loose you.

LittleDon

 

[jiza101]

How do you get tips emailed to you daily.

 

[MetalFortress]

That's pretty stupid if him and his gf are mutually exclusive.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Originally posted by jiza101
How do you get tips emailed to you daily.

go to the main website and you should see it.

 

[Climax]

...

Originally posted by jiza101
How do you get tips emailed to you daily.

Daily "tip of the day" E-mail

Click on the above link, scroll to the bottom, and subscribe.

Laterz...

 

[Climax]

b.s

The trick is to first not show any guilt, don't let her know you feel
like you did something wrong. Secondly you need to find something you
can be mad at her about and focus on that. When a girl is put on the
defensive it's amazing how quickly they can forget about how mad they
were at you. All they will be thinking about is how to not have you
upset with them. They will in turn end up begging you for your
forgiveness.

This is NOT true... when i tried this sort of thing, her mind was off being angry with me ONLY for the time that i was "MAD" at her, but after that situation was sorted, she would become angry at me again about the original thing, AND to add to that, she would also be angry with me for tuning HER everytime she tunes me. This technique is not a good one to use, and in most cases will just make things worse.


Overall, from my experiances, the girl will like/love you more if u c an admitt that u made a mistake, and improve urself to NOT make the same mistake again.

I am not saying that u need to beg for her forgiveness, i am saying that un eed to come staright, and NOT hide from the fact that u made a mistake.

And in this case where u ARE dating other girls, the girl that u are involved with will NOT take u back, no matter WHAT technique you use. Thats reality.

But that also depends on her, she might be willing to "forgive and forget", but thats only if u admit to ur mistake, and are willing to improve yourself and NOT make the same mistake again.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Re: b.s

Originally posted by aequitas
This is NOT true... when i tried this sort of thing, her mind was off being angry with me ONLY for the time that i was "MAD" at her, but after that situation was sorted, she would become angry at me again about the original thing, AND to add to that, she would also be angry with me for tuning HER everytime she tunes me. This technique is not a good one to use, and in most cases will just make things worse.


Overall, from my experiances, the girl will like/love you more if u c an admitt that u made a mistake, and improve urself to NOT make the same mistake again.

I am not saying that u need to beg for her forgiveness, i am saying that un eed to come staright, and NOT hide from the fact that u made a mistake.

And in this case where u ARE dating other girls, the girl that u are involved with will NOT take u back, no matter WHAT technique you use. Thats reality.

But that also depends on her, she might be willing to "forgive and forget", but thats only if u admit to ur mistake, and are willing to improve yourself and NOT make the same mistake again.

well if it is truely your fault then yes, but when it is just a little argument and you are both to blame, then this should work.

 

[seize_the_pattern]

Id say dont give her the chance to be tuning you. If she does turn mad, have an attitude that she's being a siko. Or a bit like: "yeah ok i screwed up i get it, big deal what else do you want out of this?"

 

[Climax]

If u give her an attitude like u dont gige a sh!t, then u might as well ASK her to leave u. *sigh*

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

well that depends on what it is, if she wnats to argue over nothing you can let her argue on her own, if it is something serious then you can not dismiss it.

 

[seize_the_pattern]

I guess you can pretty much tell when women are being a circus because the drama it brings and not because of the sense it makes.

By the way, theres a difference between "attitude" and "having an attitude".

When having an attitude. it says "please go away" indeed. Its kind of crucial to know when you can afford to pull that off.