tip and question for the "nice guys"

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

recently my bestfriend was telling me that his girlfriend's bestfriend was looking for a man. So he suggested me to his girlfriend but her response was no he's to soft(he's a nice guy). I had heard this many times and even though it doesnt really affect me because i do meet some girls who like my personality i was interested in changing just a little bit so it wouldn't hinder me from getting someone that i might really want. Now I did some research and realized they are many types of nice guys in this world. they are pushovers, over compensaters, squares and a combination of all these and more...just to name a few and a new type that i will introduce you. the new type is the ones that dont really care what a woman does as long as she spends time with him. dont get confused he is not a boring person they maybe humorous able to stand for themselves and dont buy girls ****, but what they lack is the ability to keep the girl. the problem here is that she will get tired of you cause your TOO EASILY SATISFIED. you let her do what she wants your too appreciative just for the fact that you have her and girls want to feel like they earned you. they want to work hard to please you so by being too appreciative you kill it. (BASICALLY BEING GRATEFUL CAN PUT YOU IN THE "NICE GUY CATEGORY")

So before you try to recover from being a "nice guy" you have to first identify what type of "nice guy" you are

So after just realizing this about myself i am working on ways that to make girls feel like im not that easy to get im not that appreciative blah blah etc and my question is does anyone have any ideas on how guys in the new type of nice guy situation should try to turn it around?

 

[Ease]

Nice is never good.

When in doubt, be an *******.

Google 'emotionally unavailable men', articles written by women on how men dont care and how they should avoid them. This is exactly the type of guy we shud all be.

 

[horaholic]

If you're 'too easily satisfied,' you probably arent standing your ground enough. Women are always testing men, and are always seeing what boundaries they can cross.

Nice guys are usually several of the following: doormat prone, needy, value taking, too sensitive (I dont mean sensitive to a womans feelings, but that also applies. I mean she hurts you easily), afraid to disagree, BEING THERE FOR HER, acting like her GIRLFREIND, non-exciting, non risk-taking, supplicating, place her on a pedestal, giving special treatment, etc.

There isnt anything wrong with being nice. You just dont want the 'nice guy' label. All 'nice guy' means in womanspeak is 'freindworthy,' but not 'sexy.'

You can be nice, just as long as you're not being nice to compensate for your lack of sexyness.

All one needs to do to correct this, is NOT be her emotional tampon, NOT jump through her hoops or do anything for her just because she are attractive, and not be afraid of dissapointing her. And.. most importantly, learn to give a SEXY vibe, in order to trump any 'niceness' they may take advantage of.

If you stop being nice, but dont increase your sex-worthiness, you have nothing to offer. People come here, and think if they stop being so nice, they will get laid more. Thats not the case. All that does is decrease your female 'friends,' which is a step in the right direction, but not what you should do.

just be sexy, and dont get taken advantage of. Do everything you do on YOUR terms, and NEVER hers. be nice cuz YOU want to be, not because you want to impress her.

 

[Maxtro]

And.. most importantly, learn to give a SEXY vibe, in order to trump any 'niceness' they may take advantage of.

If you stop being nice, but dont increase your sex-worthiness, you have nothing to offer. People come here, and think if they stop being so nice, they will get laid more. Thats not the case. All that does is decrease your female 'friends,' which is a step in the right direction, but not what you should do.

just be sexy, and dont get taken advantage of. Do everything you do on YOUR terms, and NEVER hers. be nice cuz YOU want to be, not because you want to impress her.

Sexy vibe, sex-worthiness, be sexy; those terms are incomprehensible for a nice guy. Not knowing how to put those terms into action is the main reason why nice guys fail with women.

It seems to be something that men have or they don't.

 

[BigJimbo]

One of the reasons American broads are fat is because you guys don't make them get off their behinds. Next time you go out with one I want you to make sure that you tell her to get up and get you something at least one time. If you are getting coffee just make sure that she gets up and gets you a napkin or spoon. Don't thank her. Just nod your head when she gives it to you. If she says something get up and leave her. Don't be a puss!!