"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Tinders body pics really do draw em in...

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So i made a tinder account a few days ago. I had a handsome shirt and tie pic. You can tell i'm built. But only one hit.

So a few hours ago, i changed to a pic of me drawing my sweatshirt up, exposing my abs and my pecs. I got like a dozen bites really quick....

Babes that want to chill and others that want "fun" with no pressure. I'm going to check this out for a minute.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doesn't really matter, just make it look somewhat candid and you're good to go.

In regards to pictures I would go:

1st pic: Dog pic. Shows you having a good time with your dog (make sure your face is clearly visible though so they have an idea of what you look like, some chicks won't look at more than 1 pic before swiping).

2nd pic: Social value pic. Use a picture that shows you having a good time with other people out and about somewhere, helps to have hot girls in the pic.

3rd pic: Candid close-up face pic. Use the best photo you can find that you look great in and clearly shows what your face looks like. This pic will give them a good idea of what you look like and a lot of girls are turned off by bad teeth so make sure you smile with them in his pic (assuming they're not fvcked up).

4th pic: Body pic. This works great if you have a nice body. Some girls like the surprise when you take off your shirt in person but some enjoy anticipation when they already know what to expect. A lot girls will like seeing this in your first pic but a lot of them won't as you might just come off as a "fvckboy" or whatever the hell girls say nowadays. The dog pic will catch their attention and the body pic will seal the deal.

5th, 6th, 7th: Can't go wrong with some additional social value pics or pics of you on vacation doing fun things or in a beautiful scenic location. More photos of your dog can't hurt either.


At the end of the day, Tinder is a superficial app. If you're below average in the looks department and not in good shape in addition to only having boring pictures, don't expect to game chicks above your level just by compensating with charm and wit when she's got literally hundreds of more exciting, better looking guys at her finger tips. You already know this though.


EDIT: Unless you have Zac Efron-like
looks, it helps if none of your pics are selfies or mirror pics (aka taken by yourself).

@mrgoodstuff you should check out Bumble if you haven't already, it's similar to Tinder.
 
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Doesn't really matter, just make it look somewhat candid and you're good to go.

In regards to pictures I would go:

1st pic: Dog pic. Shows you having a good time with your dog (make sure your face is clearly visible though so they have an idea of what you look like, some chicks won't look at more than 1 pic before swiping).

2nd pic: Social value pic. Use a picture that shows you having a good time with other people out and about somewhere, helps to have hot girls in the pic.

3rd pic: Candid close-up face pic. Use the best photo you can find that you look great in and clearly shows what your face looks like. This pic will give them a good idea of what you look like and a lot of girls are turned off by bad teeth so make sure you smile with them in his pic (assuming they're not fvcked up).

4th pic: Body pic. This works great if you have a nice body. Some girls like the surprise when you take off your shirt in person but some enjoy anticipation when they already know what to expect. A lot girls will like seeing this in your first pic but a lot of them won't as you might just come off as a "fvckboy" or whatever the hell girls say nowadays. The dog pic will catch their attention and the body pic will seal the deal.

5th, 6th, 7th: Can't go wrong with some additional social value pics or pics of you on vacation doing fun things or in a beautiful scenic location. More photos of your dog can't hurt either.


At the end of the day, Tinder is a superficial app. If you're below average in the looks department and not in good shape in addition to only having boring pictures, don't expect to game chicks above your level just by compensating with charm and wit when she's got literally hundreds of more exciting, better looking guys at her finger tips. You already know this though.


EDIT: Unless you have Zac Efron-like
looks, it helps if none of your pics are selfies or mirror pics (aka taken by yourself).

@mrgoodstuff you should check out Bumble if you haven't already, it's similar to Tinder.
Yes tinder IS superficial. I look good enough and my body is tight enough for it to work out in my favour. Theres not really much to say, the females choose you for whatever they are trying to do. I still haven't scored off of it, so let me let that happen for me. But I'm getting plenty of bites on the pics alone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just realized I look BETTER than most of the females there. Guess I'm a fine hammer.
 

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Tinder has this smart photos option. I'd guess it changes your top pic to whatever gets the most right swipes.

I used to fight with it, because I prefer my classier pic. But it keeps switching back to me working out with no shirt on. I just leave it now. *shrug*
 

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Tinder has this smart photos option. I'd guess it changes your top pic to whatever gets the most right swipes.

I used to fight with it, because I prefer my classier pic. But it keeps switching back to me working out with no shirt on. I just leave it now. *shrug*
Marketing 101: Always split test, because YOU are NOT your market. No one really knows what the "customer" is looking for, so test and experiment however you can.
 

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Marketing 101: Always split test, because YOU are NOT your market. No one really knows what the "customer" is looking for, so test and experiment however you can.
You still may be comfortable for certain markets and not comfortable for others.
 

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You still may be comfortable for certain markets and not comfortable for others.
That may be a very valuable app to create.

A split testing algorithm that "learns" who you mutually swipe with and who you reject. And maximizes your percentage with only those you mutually swipe right on.

It would take a lot of manual operation. Change configurations of your profile every ten swipes or something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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