ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
You too can do this. It is just a matter of working on the subjective conditions hindering you. Of course, there will always be an element of fortune involved... you do not want to become one of those 'approach machines', who fail to factor in the favorable conditions... much like one considers what phase the moon is in before going fishing.
There are some things though that are in your control such as the management of anxiety and some go-to method if you are stuck for something to say. As for mood, it helps to read a lot, where one gathers energy as a reservoir does, and even better is writing, where that energy comes to overflow spontaneously. This cultivation of a slightly manic mood does wonders for the restoration of one's natural ability to approach. This is the norm. This is our birthright. Think of the alternative, the anxiety to not approach, as a modern sickness.
