You're a good texter. I suck at texting chicks... I've had two chicks go ghost on me the past two days one of whom was an ex pro cheerleader. I somewhat made up for it by making out with an HB 6 at the club last night lol
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tinder lay #2... Or what a relentless guy does when she tries to fall asleep instead.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Good report. Most guys would have caved long before.
I've been loosely using Tinder for a few months and found the best results come from being the nice guy, so to speak. I can't tell you how many girls have given me the "all the guys here just want sex" rhetoric, so going sexual too soon is the quickest way to be blocked or ignored. That doesn't mean these girls aren't looking to hook up, but they don't want to feel like a "booty call". They want to rationalize it as "he was a nice guy, we met up, and it just happened". So play it from this angle.
My standard approach is to message with one of my copy-and-paste openers to get them laughing, play the part of NOT looking to hookup, keep the conversation light and witty, don't ask too many questions, and move to texting once some rapport is built. I usually say something along the lines of "I swear nobody looks like their pictures on here, you should text me a few more". This literally sucks them in and they'll want that validation.
The brilliant thing about Tinder is most of these girls are chatting with you while they're at the bar on a Friday/Saturday night, they're open minded, looking for fun, and bukowski played his hand 100% correct suggesting an after-party at his place. Post bar meetups are the quickest and easiest way to get laid in 2014.
Every girl is different though, sometimes you just have to feel her out and fly by the seat of your pants.
I've been loosely using Tinder for a few months and found the best results come from being the nice guy, so to speak. I can't tell you how many girls have given me the "all the guys here just want sex" rhetoric, so going sexual too soon is the quickest way to be blocked or ignored. That doesn't mean these girls aren't looking to hook up, but they don't want to feel like a "booty call". They want to rationalize it as "he was a nice guy, we met up, and it just happened". So play it from this angle.
My standard approach is to message with one of my copy-and-paste openers to get them laughing, play the part of NOT looking to hookup, keep the conversation light and witty, don't ask too many questions, and move to texting once some rapport is built. I usually say something along the lines of "I swear nobody looks like their pictures on here, you should text me a few more". This literally sucks them in and they'll want that validation.
The brilliant thing about Tinder is most of these girls are chatting with you while they're at the bar on a Friday/Saturday night, they're open minded, looking for fun, and bukowski played his hand 100% correct suggesting an after-party at his place. Post bar meetups are the quickest and easiest way to get laid in 2014.
Every girl is different though, sometimes you just have to feel her out and fly by the seat of your pants.
gravityeyelids
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I fvcking LOVE bukowski as wellTheCWord said:
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
So Saturday night, I was all but ready to engage in my backup plan. Based on how difficult she was Wednesday night - I was expecting something Similar. Especially when she sent me this text: "I was wrong - the party starts at 7 and goes to 11 sorry" (she originally told me it was 6 to 9).
But around 10:30 she calls, "I left early, going home for 5 minutes then I'll be coming over." (i later decided this was probably to take a dump haha)
I'm instantly having flashbacks of her talking about laying down until...
"I'm stopping at the store first to get toll money. Do you want anything?"
Instantly calm washes over me... She wouldn't ask this unless she wasn't going to be a problem tonight.
"Anything?"
"Yeah sure."
"Yeah, pick me up a Monster."
"No way! Those things are terrible for you."
"I know nurse. But you said anything."
"You're a brat. Ok, just this once."
She shows up at my house about 45 minutes later. With one of each Monster because she didn't know which one I wanted. Instead of calling me to ask; she just decided to impress me with 11 cans of the stuff! It worked... I was impressed...
The rest of the night was good; chocolate wine.... booty call talk.... neither of us are looking for relationships.... she just wants someone she can have fun, have sex with, and sleep with... good vibrations and sex. I'm game.
No complaints.
But around 10:30 she calls, "I left early, going home for 5 minutes then I'll be coming over." (i later decided this was probably to take a dump haha)
I'm instantly having flashbacks of her talking about laying down until...
"I'm stopping at the store first to get toll money. Do you want anything?"
Instantly calm washes over me... She wouldn't ask this unless she wasn't going to be a problem tonight.
"Anything?"
"Yeah sure."
"Yeah, pick me up a Monster."
"No way! Those things are terrible for you."
"I know nurse. But you said anything."
"You're a brat. Ok, just this once."
She shows up at my house about 45 minutes later. With one of each Monster because she didn't know which one I wanted. Instead of calling me to ask; she just decided to impress me with 11 cans of the stuff! It worked... I was impressed...
The rest of the night was good; chocolate wine.... booty call talk.... neither of us are looking for relationships.... she just wants someone she can have fun, have sex with, and sleep with... good vibrations and sex. I'm game.
No complaints.