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lost_blackbird

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Well this was interesting.
You need to apply to Tinder for your stats, then download the file to Tinder insights to get your figures.
Here are mine...


Get your own here...

 

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I got banned on tinder a long time ago lol
 

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Somehow I've managed to stay on Tinder, but Bumble well and truly showed me the door,
'hate speech' apparently. I only professed a desire to avoid fat women and stuffy, childless
career types. I guess that didn't leave many other choices on that site?
 

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I’ve been banned from all of them for one reason or another. I got banned from bumble for replying to a fake profile that asked me for money if I could have some first. They accused me of trying to sell something lol Hinge banned me for God knows why, hate speech I think. Tinder I can’t even remember why.
 

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I’ve never been banned from a dating site. Maybe it’s because when a girl doesn’t agree to meet up, I stop interacting with her right then and there, and just message the next one.
 

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I’ve never been banned from a dating site. Maybe it’s because when a girl doesn’t agree to meet up, I stop interacting with her right then and there, and just message the next one.
Women can get you banned easily on those things now. One of them, I forgot which one, you can report the guy to get banned for how the date went! Just going by your word too, you could make **** up and get him banned even if you didn’t like him.
 

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Not to mock you or anything but if you've spent "372" days on Tinder and never got a date, why would you waste any more time in there? (reason > dopamine)
 

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Women can get you banned easily on those things now. One of them, I forgot which one, you can report the guy to get banned for how the date went! Just going by your word too, you could make **** up and get him banned even if you didn’t like him.
Wow, oof.

My OLD profiles were very politically neutral and inoffensive. I had a shirtless mirror selfie, apparently that'll get you banned from Bumble. Sounds like Bumble is full of social justice divas who are threatened by the male gender and want to "feel safe" etc etc. so I never started a profile on it. I need to start managing my blood pressure.

A girl who agrees to go on a date with me likes the way I look, ostensibly, or is at least willing to give me a chance for make up for my looks with my personality. I can usually take it from there. Not always though. My worst dates end as such:

Me: So, you want to grab a bite/another drink somewhere?
Her: I have to go home and blah blah blah blah, but thanks for the nice evening.
Me: Oh, okay. Take care.

I've never experienced repercussions from those bad dates.

Maybe women just have it in for you, Robert.
 

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Not to mock you or anything but if you've spent "372" days on Tinder and never got a date, why would you waste any more time in there? (reason > dopamine)
Correction.
( reason > autism)
Actually, there was one date I did arrange but I cancelled it about 4 days before it was due to happen.
 

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I never understood why the average guy gets no results on tinder but still stays on the app for years. All this time could be spent at the gym or doing a fun hobby with friends.
 

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I never understood why the average guy gets no results on tinder but still stays on the app for years. All this time could be spent at the gym or doing a fun hobby with friends.
I never understood why neurotypical people think they can view the world through the eyes of
someone with a developmental disorder which primarily affects socialisation.

Just for the record, I'm not average either. Ironically, that's the main issue for my lack of success.
If I was average, I'd actively seek sex but I don't. If I was average, I'd have a social circle but I don't. If I was
average, I'd tolerate some female BS to get what I want, but I don't. If I was average, I'd find interaction with
others pleasant and fulfilling but I don't. I unmatched with the bulk of my matches myself. This doesn't mean
I particularly want to be this way, life gets very lonely when you're a square peg in a world of round holes.
I like the concept of socialisation and can see the obvious benefits BUT when it comes to actually being
social I'm totally awful at it and have to fake my way through almost every single interaction with other humans
which in turn is hugely draining. After which I require some complete isolation from others for a while to recover.
Most of my 'fun hobbies' are quite deliberately solitary. If they involved others, they wouldn't relax me at all.

I have let my Tinder plus elapse recently, I can't see the point of paying for nothing. Tinder for me is little more
than an experiment, a little like me being here. I sought to collect information to try and learn more about myself,
my condition and to a lesser extent women and how to successfully interact with them using a variety of different
approaches, communication styles and regular alterations to my profile & continue to do so. Finding the stats analysis
site was of great interest to me to see the numbers laid bare. My lack of success is of little concern to me, I find the
whole idea of online dating fascinating and the behaviours and showboating of preening, pouting women very
amusing. As my stats bear out I do swipe left a LOT. I find their levels of entitlement hilarious and have laughed my
arse off at the physical states of some of them. It baffles me how easily they get attention, especially the ham-beasts.
 

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Tinder is so 2013...don't tell me that you are on Plenty of Fatties and OK Stupid as well?
 

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Ok, I won't.
I'll be interested to see how many of the self proclaimed ladykillers on here that allegedly find rich
pickings on Tinder are happy to share their stats. I suspect the silence will be deafening.
In 2013 I was married.
 

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I never understood why neurotypical people think they can view the world through the eyes of
someone with a developmental disorder which primarily affects socialisation.
It was a hyperbole and not an attack on you personally, we are on the same side here man no need to argue.

You mentioned that you're on the spectrum in another thread, it shouldn't be a limiting factor. Plenty of guys on the spectrum have achieved a ton of success, Elon Musk is probably the best example.


I like the concept of socialisation and can see the obvious benefits BUT when it comes to actually being
social I'm totally awful at it and have to fake my way through almost
You can always join more introverted hobby groups on meetup like board games or even an anime club.
 

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I don't like online dating apps as:

1. I don't like posing and getting pictures clicked by people, so I don't have many

2. Getting a photoshoot done for an online dating profile would be too try hard for me

3. Hence I don't get matches

4. Grapes are sour
 

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You mentioned that you're on the spectrum in another thread, it shouldn't be a limiting factor.
It shouldn't be a limiting factor but it is. If I am 'myself' in social interactions. Other people pull that
"this guy's a weirdo" face and eject. I've seen that look 1000's of times throughout my lifetime. I can
only avoid it when I play act and ask things about the other person, (when I really couldn't give a hoot)
making small talk seems a waste of time to me but a necessary hoop to jump through when dealing
with other people. My black and white way of seeing the world is great for cutting through crap but
not the best at building rapport with others. I'm sure if I was a billionaire genius I could be tapping
Amber Heard too, Asperger's be damned. But I'm not. I'm just an ill fitting cog in the social machinery
of modern society. I have learned to own that, because it's not going anywhere and will remain with
me for the rest of my days. Getting older has been of some comfort as being an 'outlier' as someone
on here once called me gets easier as I age. My younger years going through school and undiagnosed
were absolute hell for me.
 

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Somehow I've managed to stay on Tinder, but Bumble well and truly showed me the door,
'hate speech' apparently. I only professed a desire to avoid fat women and stuffy, childless
career types. I guess that didn't leave many other choices on that site?
You just can't do that if you really want to bang women.

i have a feeling you are making sure you are rejected as it will prove your own inner workings as "right".
 

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I think I saw this guy on reddit post about tinderinsights, his stats where also horrendous. something like 3 lays in five years while swiping on tens of thousands of profiles. I also remember all the commenters saying those stats where normal.
 
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