"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AriMamba

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I have refrained from posting on sosuave for so long and just tried to find answers on my own. However I just need to see someone else's opinion on this.


What can cause a woman whom with I had a nice conversation with and she even agreed to go out, causes her to dissapear or ignore me as soon as I ask for a phone number?

I would understand if it was any other site. But Tinder??? Thanks in advance!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Online dating is worst than real life dating in terms of flake..... girls will chat, will talk, give number and than dissappear.

Online dating is good in terms of high number, low investment (time and money) but you have to expect they will not always be reponsive. In 1 year, I got around 30 dates in real life, not a single on online dating (did get 1 number and 1 set date but she dissappeared)

It's a number game, increase your numbers by being interesting.

This post shows that you need support, to increase your game. ''nice conversation'' are not ''interesting ones'' .... Review the basic
 

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While Von is right, you have to accept that online dating is a madhouse. Girls with all kinds of crazy problems are on there, for reasons you can't even begin to understand. So don't try to increase your game on women that don't show any REAL promise. "Nice conversation" is good, but nothing special.

Do alot of girls contact you? If so then you'd understand; you wanna be nice to the ugly ones and then they misinterpret until you have to drop them rudely. It's the exact same thing, just from the other side. Few girls actually have the balls to tell you "I'm not interested", which is why it seems so confusing online.

Also you're trying to say "But Tinder???" - everybody knows Tinder is only sex without drama, right? Wrong. Hell I saw a documentary on TV about a woman reporter trying to "date" on Tinder and being royally upset when the guy revealed he was also seeing other women.
 

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Also you're trying to say "But Tinder???" - everybody knows Tinder is only sex without drama, right? Wrong. Hell I saw a documentary on TV about a woman reporter trying to "date" on Tinder and being royally upset when the guy revealed he was also seeing other women.
LOL Big double standard exposed there. Women generally want you to accept that they are dating around/playing the field or whatever, but the moment you reveal you are spinning plates, they can't deal with it.
 

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Yeah. I have to add that she met a couple of AFCs, rejected them, then found a player and was interested - but eventually finished the film by saying he wasn't serious enough about her.

Let's be real, those girls are looking for the 1 in a million deal of the century, and they think they have the choice. While that's completely delusional it doesn't make things any easier!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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