Tinder conversations

[Ceams_]

Hello, fellow Don Juan's, first post here.

I'm seeking some guidance for tinder conversations.
I got a super like match with a cute girl, she instantly sent me a decent opener and we exchanged a few messages till she fell asleep. The next day I messed around saying "Heyy sleepy head" n stuff and we continued talking but suddenly she stopped responding because she went on a trip (I know this because in her profile it said she was 34km away).
How do I get back into the conversation? It's been a day and I also don't want to ask about the trip because she will think I'm desperate and checked her profile.

She also might be bored or maybe lost interest. She kept saying people said she was really beautiful and I threw some compliments here and there with caution but besides that the conversation was just about food and other vulgar topics. I think she's not one to flirt but I also don't wanna bore her with philosophical conversations because that didn't go well with other girls.

thank y'all in advance

 

[Kotaix]

Meet her in person, and use innuendo to break the sexual barrier. Chatting is for orbiters.

 

[Hal9000]

When you start talking with a woman you need to ask a few basic info questions to put her at ease. Within four or five messages you need to be working on when you'll get together. If she isn't into it then move on. Either she isn't interested or she's just looking for a text buddy and I can assure you that isn't where you want to be. If she ghosted you and went on a trip you should probably move on but if you wanted to send one final "give me a yell when you get back in town" type message that's OK as well. Nothing after that unless she responds, then you need to move quickly to arranging a meet.

 

[GioWolf]

I always do no more than 6-10 messages and then suggest to meet for a drink. You don’t know if she’s a real person until you meet face to face so don’t invest too much time in someone you’ve never met. Take whatever she says in her profile with a grain of salt. Don’t develop oneitis, especially before you meet.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Welcome aboard...

I usually have an opinion about everything, but the advice above seems quite sound and so, I have nothing additional .

Just wanted to say welcome to the forum.

 

[Lookatu]

If she went on a trip or a vacation, leave her alone. You've only been talking one time and she owes you nothing. She wants to be able to enjoy her trip and not be bothered by distractions. If she does end up thinking of you, she will reach out to you.
I'd hit her up after she gets back but not before.

And super-likes don't mean $hit these days...

 

[Ceams_]

Just a follow-up. I ended up asking 2 girls out (including the one mentioned in the post) but they are not keen on it. The convo is short n smooth like you've suggested but I can't seem to be able to finalize it with a date.
I guess that at my age girls prefer to be absolutely sure they wanna hang out with a stranger. Or they are just plain uninterested.

 

[GioWolf]

Just a follow-up. I ended up asking 2 girls out (including the one mentioned in the post) but they are not keen on it. The convo is short n smooth like you've suggested but I can't seem to be able to finalize it with a date.
I guess that at my age girls prefer to be absolutely sure they wanna hang out with a stranger. Or they are just plain uninterested.

You just saved yourself so much time. They are only seeking validation. They want orbiters. You are a high value man that is busy living life. You don’t have time to invest in a woman you never met. The goal is to get them out on a date and seduce in real life. How old are you and the women you are going after?

 

[Ceams_]

You just saved yourself so much time. They are only seeking validation. They want orbiters. You are a high value man that is busy living life. You don’t have time to invest in a woman you never met. The goal is to get them out on a date and seduce in real life. How old are you and the women you are going after?

That's a good point. I'm 19 and I match with women 18 to 20 years old.

 

[andreihaha]

Learn from every experience.
Keep the conversation short and ask her out during the first conversation. If you don't see fast if she's interested, you might loose a lot of time and get only frustration. Most women have other options.

Be honest about your intentions and you will stand out from the crowd of salivating instagram followers.
Good luck and welcome to the site. A lot of useful and some useless stuff in here, treat with caution.

 

[GioWolf]

Over 60 percent of women are just collecting matches

61% of respondents (ages 18-29) said they’re more interested in discovering who is attracted to them online than actually going out with anyone.

It’s important to remember, when you get rejected online, chances are it isn’t you. Go back and search through a lot of good threads on here about OLD. User MrWood has some great stuff. At your age, approaching in real life will get better results. Especially if you are attending university. Make sure you are lifting regularly if not already. Make yourself as attractive as possible.

 

[Lookatu]

I'm not sure if you put anything in your profile but one way to screen and not waste your time is to say in a polite way something like this in your profile: "No pen pals please. I'd rather meet sooner than later in real life and see if we have a connection". I've done something similar and women have stated that's the reason why they swiped right on me as they found a lot of guys just wanting to text too much which I found surprising but there are those out there.