"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Times you've chickened out

kdnash82

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I saw a post recently about a guy who pussed out and didn't go for a chick that was giving him direct hints.

Have there been anytimes where a girl was giving you hints that she wanted you to ask her out or talk to her, but instead of doing it, you chickened out for fear of rejection?

I've been sitting here thinking that this would be a good topic and that the stories would be some what funny, but I honestly can't remember a time where a chick dropped a few subtle hints, and I still didn't go for it because I was too scared of rejection.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Notably, there was this one chick that everybody on campus knew I liked, (in my sophomore year, spring 2006) and we were always seen together talking. I kept thinking damn, this gotta be a tease based on my run of luck. I saw her with a guy earlier in the year, leading me to assume that was her boyfriend. I then said tease or no tease, I'm gonna spare the embarrassment of getting rejected.

Come to find out, THAT WASN'T THE BOYFRIEND!!! Not only that, I heard from nearly everybody who was watching us talk, as well as her sorority sisters, that she had a real liking to me! NO TEASE! I f**ked up pretty badly! I kept getting henpecked with the question "Why the hell you didn't ask her out? She wanted you, man!"

The same thing happened with another chick I liked (same timeframe, same sorority) and she was never with another guy! I didn't make a move. All I had to do was say the magic word!!! goddamn...

That's my worst experiences...or at least some!
 

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I can understand the whole "is that her boyfriend?" factor. If a girl really wanted you to talk to her, she wouldn't be hanging out around a guy. I hate when girls do this at clubs. They come with a guy, but aren't with the guy the entire time. Which has me sitting there thinking, was that her boyfriend, or just some tool that came with her?

With that said, I've also had girls that I thought were with their boyfriend come to me and start a converstation. During some point they will say, "yeah, I'm here with my friend/cousin/brother tonight". I love those because they're just reeking with "Ask me for my phone number and you'll get it"
 

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I have chosen alcohol over a woman before. She was physically dragging me out onto the dance floor, then later going outside and saying loudly around my friends that she was planning on being bad tonight. But at the time, I cared more about getting sh!t faced than I did getting laid. The two never seemed to go well together.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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