"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Timeline and your evolution so far

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Hi everyone, I got this idea from another website that i am on. This is cross-posted.

Everyone post their own timeline of your life

1987 - born

1989 - started playing video games

1990 - mental and physical abuse by brother

circa 1995 - got held back from first grade

1996 - being bullied starts in an on again and off-again sort of way

1998 - started to play baseball

1999 - begin five year oneitis

2000
- moved up to Teener League baseball
- took a one month vacation to Florida with my aunt and grandmother


2003
- bullied by little Irish kid
- bullied by Alan S., tried to commit suicide multiple times
- loss of all friends
- kicked the **** out of Alan S.

2004
- finds sosuave
- end five year oneitis
- took my batting average from a .005 midway through the season to a .400 by the end of the season with only one error on field
- Applied to Pennsylvania Governor School for Teaching while everyone else belittled me

2005
- accepted to Pennsylvania Governor School for Teaching
- first girlfriend
- Joins Family, Career, and Community Leaders of America
- First Car Accident

2006
- quit baseball because my coach was an ass that treated me like crap
- Won gold medal at the FCCLA State Competition
- Accepted to Millersville University and Kutztown University
- Accepted for the FCCLA National Competition
- Fundraised $2,100 in a week and a half
- Won gold medal at the FCCLA National Competition
- Took a two week vacation in Florida
- Began to attend Millersville University
- Joined Cool Cats Swing Club
- Broke up with girlfriend
- Joined Conestoga Club
- Dropped out of the teaching major and became "undecided"

2007
- decided that I wanted to become a motivational speaker
- declared my dual majors in Philosophy and Business

2008
- Joined Western Martial Arts "On the Edge of Honor"
- Joined Student Business Organization
- Became vice-president of Cool Cats Swing Club
- Became vice-president of On the Edge of Honor
- Declared a change of major to straight Philosophy with minors in Business, Psychology, and Political Studies
- Told my Business Professor to stick after he sent back my thesis with "Find a new topic" and I handed a paper that got the highest grade in the class with same thesis and topic
- Completed my first bicycle tour across Northeastern PA

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My life was a wreck before I found sosuave. That is why I will not say anything nasty about that website.

Notice nothing really happened before I found sosuave as well. Everything started to occur afterwards

I want to see if my prediction is correct.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I won't post a timeline because of those painful memories in the beginning, everybody's had them in their childhood. Some things are better left unturned.

As for your 2006-present, great job on turning your life around comic.
 

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DarthAngel707 said:
I won't post a timeline because of those painful memories in the beginning, everybody's had them in their childhood. Some things are better left unturned.

As for your 2006-present, great job on turning your life around comic.
believe me when I say this, once you let go of those painful memories and find meaning in them, you will never be free.

Look up logotherepy for more information.

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Hey cool idea.

You started playing video games when you were 2 wow. Good that you beat up Alan S.

Here's mine. Ages are approximations.

1981 - 0 years old
- Born

1984 - 2-3 years old
- Little brother born
- Parents get divorced
- Live with single mother

1987 - 6
- Became an emotional wreck/depressed that I have been in until I was in my mid 20's.

1990 - 9 years old
- Moved to a different city
- Mother made me take saxophone class which I hated turned me off of playing an instrument

1994 - 13 years old
- Moved in with my Dad and his new wife
- Half-brother was born
- Repeated the 6th grade
- Got my first crush on a girl and she was mean to me
- Had a crush on another girl and she wasn't any nicer

1995 - 14 years old
- Had another crush on a girl who didn't like me
- Sailor Moon aired on American TV. Became a huge anime fan ever since.

1996 - 15 years old
- Had another crush on a girl who didn't like me

1997 - 16 years old
- Had another crush on a girl who didn't like me
- Little brother snapped and became a complete jerk to everybody

1999 - 18 years old
- Had another crush on a girl who didn't like me

2000 - 18 years old
- Graduated High School
- Got my first job
- Started my very long career of Jr. College
- Joined an online forum for the fist time
- Started downloading anime, causing the internet to be the source of about 95% of the anime I watch ever since.

2003 - 21 years old
- Stopped hanging out with my old High School buddies and haven't had a friend since.

2004 - 22 years old
- Moved out of my Dad's house and into my Grandma's.
- Transferred to a different Jr. College
- Went to a strip club and saw my first real naked girl
- Lost my virginity to a hooker :down:
- Got laid at a swinger club
- Got severe oneitis for a girl that actually made me fail a college class because I couldn't stand to be around her.
- Found out about the seduction community and joined Sosuave

2005 - 23 years old
- Started working at a place where a lot of girls worked
- Became friends with several of the girls and it was the first time that I really spent time with females
- Dated one girl from that place for two weeks. She was the first and only girl I've kissed.
- Had two "encounters" with a couple I met at Adult Friend Finder
- Got laid again at the same swinger club
- Started playing and really got into World of Warcraft
- Got another hooker

2006 - 24 years old
- Got another hooker
- Played way too much World of Warcraft
- Started hanging out with my cute next door neighbor. Never got anywhere with her :(
- Started hanging out with some of the girls from work then they started using me for "favors." I got nothing in return.
- Actually made a friend with a guy that I met on a forum who turned out to live close to me, then he later started using me as a cover story for when he cheated on his GF. Haven't spoke to him since.

2007 - 25 years old
- Finally gave up World of Warcraft
- Got oneitis for a girl that I actually spoke with on a daily basis
- Did the same as above with an even hotter girl
- Picked up a girl at my college gym and had one date with her
- My brother, the middle child, shot himself and survived

2008 - 26 years old
- Some how ended up in the same class again with the hotter girl
- Towards the middle of the class she becomes inexplicably cold to me, we stop talking
- Finally graduate from Jr. College
- Started talking to my brother again
- Get accepted to several universities, choose to go to CSU Long Beach
- Went to Long Beach and found an apartment, moving in 08/01/2008, I can't wait
- Found out I'll have two roommates and one is female and apparently she's hot...

I am very excited about what my future holds. It's a chance to reboot my life without any restrictions or rules placed on me.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This isn't my idea, so I won't take credit. I'm just borrowing the idea from another website
Maxtro said:
Hey cool idea.

You started playing video games when you were 2 wow. Good that you beat up Alan S.

- Found out I'll have two roommates and one is female and apparently she's hot...

I am very excited about what my future holds. It's a chance to reboot my life without any restrictions or rules placed on me.
Yeah, the old atari 2600 was the ****.

Be careful about the roommate situation, my friend.

best of luck with rebooting your life and graduating jr. college.

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Thank you.

It's a 3 bedroom apartment so we all should get our own space but I am concerned simply because I have never lived with anybody who is not family. And I have never lived with a girl my age.
 
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