Time you realised you had destroyed the AFC?

[DDefying]

I had been the biggest AFC for the last 6 months until I discovered this site. Wow. It's changed me in so many ways I can't even describe...

Anyway, aside from thanking you... the purpose of this post was this:

When did you start becoming a DJ?
Did something just click and that AFC switch turned off (if it was ever on ) and BOOM you're a man?
Or is it all just one continual learning experience...?

I'd like to hear ya thoughts on this one!

DDefying

 

[Gray The Prince]

Ever since I found this site back in September, my Inner AFC and DJ have been at war with each other. My AFC side was curbstomping my Inner DJ until the AA competition, and then my Inner DJ started gaining ground and chased my Inner AFC back to the corners of my subconscious. Recently, my Inner AFC has launched a counterattack and has been overwhelming my Inner DJ.

My Inner AFC is very powerful, however my inner DJ has shone so much these last few weeks. I love it. My Inner DJ is going to storm my Inner AFC and try to overtake it this weekend.

 

[editdivide]

The moment I realized I had nothing left without her.

Before I met her I had friends, plenty of women and success.

After she had left I had almost nothing and realized it was time to take the power back and give my life the needed sustenance to build vitality.

I stopped acting like a beta and began to treat everyone the same. I decided that no matter what I would stop checking girls out, being nice to them just because and I would look for a deeper source of character that I had judged men by.

If she wasn't imaginative, didn't respect me in any way I simply walked away. It was difficult in the beginning because it felt like utter separation and death. It felt like I was quickly losing even more people but what I came to have was an incredible source of abundance and joy. I became positive about my life and began taking responsibility.

Now, I wouldn't have it any other way. I never want any woman controlling my life and I have no desire to ever pursue women again. No matter what, even if its going to leave me stranded and alone for a very long time. Even in the worse of scenarios I will stick to my truth. Also, I have found that my best friend is myself and that self love is an incredible feeling. The moment when you look at your life and become grateful for every singular thing, even the moments of boredom and lull, you appreciate anyways. It is about loving what is regardless of how things are. The true definition of an alpha male.

 

[comic_relief]

You never destroy your AFC-ness. You just learn to control it

- comic_relief

 

[DDefying]

You never destroy your AFC-ness. You just learn to control it

- comic_relief

Haha I have realised this to be too true!

Thanks for the posts, editdivide that was helpful and similar to a situation I was in... looks like you got it all sorted. Good luck! I figured that, you change yourself first, and then the world around you second.

And that a small change each day can overall make a BIG difference...

Keep it up DJs!

 

[PDubb75]

Completely agree with comic_relief here... but for the thread's sake...

My LTR broke up with me around Thanksgiving last year. About 2 months after my that (which would be around Jan-Feb of this year), I would say it all changed for me. I realized how much she disrespected me, and how much better I deserved. I knew deep down that while I wasn't to blame, things got where they were because of my passive attitude on way too much. I decided to change myself at that exact moment. I heard about this sit a while back from someone, and knew this was the right time to check it out. And here I am.

And it's a damn good thing, too! It turns out my LTR just got engaged last month to the guy I suspected she was cheating on me with. And I can surprisingly and happily say it doesn't even bother me. I have this site to thank for that. Without realizing my potential out there, and how much I didn't need someone like her, who knows how I would be after hearing that news.

EDIT: I still have a long way to go. But I now know where I'm heading and how to get there. Just practice at this point.

 

[Maxtro]

Hasn't happened yet.

Although there is constant war going on in my head.

The AFC side also has depression as the cavalry.

 

[x86]

Now, I wouldn't have it any other way. I never want any woman controlling my life and I have no desire to ever pursue women again. No matter what, even if its going to leave me stranded and alone for a very long time. Even in the worse of scenarios I will stick to my truth. Also, I have found that my best friend is myself and that self love is an incredible feeling. The moment when you look at your life and become grateful for every singular thing, even the moments of boredom and lull, you appreciate anyways. It is about loving what is regardless of how things are. The true definition of an alpha male.

100% agree.