"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Time to turn off the ganji yet?

Mystic

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So I had a relationshop with this girl, she dumped me and friendzoned me, so we went back to chilling all the time but as friends. She knew I liked her but she was a ***** to me at times so I wouldnt like her. Over the college break weve been chilling a bunch. After one night I just couldnt stand being in the friendzone with her, she knew how I felt. So I cut off contact suddenly. We went from hanging out all the time every day to no contact. Ive been ignoring her calls and such. Its been about a week so far.

Anyways yesterday (new years eve) I get a call from her again, I hit the ignore button. She leaves me a message saying stuff like I was thinking about you and wanted to let you know that you rock, youre my ex-boyfriend and my friend, I still kind of like you happy new years I gave you a call before but you didnt call me back. Some stupid **** like that

So my question is this when should I stop the ganji, how should I re-initiate contact with her. I cant hold up the ganji for much longer because im going back to college and she lives in my hall so ill be seeing her a lot. But the ganji seems to be working in my opinion.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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splinterkb

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It sounds like she's trying to hook you back in to hanging out with her. She could be sincere about saying she still kind of likes you, but I think she's honestly trying to bait you. Maybe thats all she has to offer to try and get you back as a friend.
 

Desdinova

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This is EXACTLY what I don't like about the Ganji 5hit. It prevents you from moving on with your life. You're wasting your time by focussing on ignoring a girl. The problem is, it KEEPS you thinking about her instead of moving on without her. It prevents you from becoming an independent human being who doesn't need a woman to survive. Ganji keeps you needy, hoping that the girl will come back and make you happy again.

Give up the Ganji 5hit and take your life back.
 
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