Time to move on?

[Kbish828]

Been talking to this girl for almost 3 months. Things were going really well. Couple weeks ago, she got upset with me about a lie I told on our first date. Afterwards, I gave her some space and quit contacting her. She sent me a few texts and snapchats the past week. I replied to a couple texts but not the snapchats. She even tried to meet up on Sunday to go to the park, but I was busy. I figured this was a good sign.

So today, I texted her "Hey, I have some tickets to a comedy club downtown Friday if you'd like to join me?" She replied "I'm sorry, I already plans. Have fun though!"

She did not try to set anything else up, bad sign. I am not going to respond to that text.

I guess it's time to move on for good?

 

[Kbish828]

Or should I reply with something smart a** like "dam, guess I'm going alone. You were the last one on my list"?

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

When in doubt.... Move on.
Don't reply to her at all, go NC on her.
She can't just come into your life whenever she pleases. Always make sure you are in control, not her.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

3 months....that sounds about the breaking point time. Was she a plate? GF? FB?

You were banging her right? Regular basis? How long did it originally take you to bang her?

 

[TheException]

Ya that text from her wreaks of low interest. I would have tried to "cash in" when she displayed high interest by taking the initiative by trying to make plans with you. I would have made concrete counter plans on the spot.

As played.....put her on the backburner.

 

[Kbish828]

I was banging her, took about 1 month 5ish dates. She is one of three plates right now, but definitely liked her the most. Actually enjoyed being around her. The other two are really just fb's and girls to drink with

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

This one might be done with. The 5 date thing had the direction of future GF written all over it IMO, if that's what you had wanted. But it just didn't work out for whatever reasons.

Well, you tried taking her out and spending some money on her. She turned you down either out of spite (because you had just turned her down), or low interest like Exception said.

If you want to give it another shot, I'd go the easy, no hassle route. You guys already did the dating and getting to know each other thing. Invite her over on a weekday to "watch a movie". Keep it simple. If she turns you down for that, then I'd leave it alone, go ghost.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

^^^^that sounds butt hurt to me. Like an emotional response, and couldn't do any good IMO. If a chick did that to me I might block her for being a crazy a$$.

Indifference....

 

[Yewki]

She sent me a few texts and snapchats the past week. I replied to a couple texts but not the snapchats. She even tried to meet up on Sunday to go to the park, but I was busy.

You did a good job making her hampster spin after the fight, but then it sounds like you overly ignored her and acted too indifferent... and effectively pissed her off. You should have immediately counter offered after you declined her offer on Sunday. Think about it from her perspective. After the fight she tried to reach out to you with snapchats, text messages, and then an offer to meet up. You ignored her snapchats (she can see you opened them btw), replied to only some of her text messages, then flat out declined her offer and left it at that. You probably destroyed her interest level.

If I am right about this, you should swallow your pride, act more friendly, and try again. If she declines you two times in a row, with no counter, move on. Maybe you'll hear from her again, maybe not.

Also, it sounds like you might be too keen on playing games. Instead of ignoring and considering going NC forever after the decline, you should have brushed it off playfully i.e. "Ok your loss!"

 

[Kbish828]

Thanks for the advice.

The girl described in the OP keeps sending me (and maybe others) random snapchats. Does this mean there she is still interested? I wouldn't mind banging her again but don't want to throw myself out there again

 

[Yewki]

Thanks for the advice.

The girl described in the OP keeps sending me (and maybe others) random snapchats. Does this mean there she is still interested? I wouldn't mind banging her again but don't want to throw myself out there again

Sounds like she might be trying to recruit orbiters. Or maybe since you've already banged she's attached and wants to keep you on the radar.

Either way you should make another offer to meetup soon. If she declines the next one without a counter then I'd recommend NC.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Did it ever occur to you that she may ACTUALLY have other plans? (like you did on Sunday
Legit plans..
I wouldn't give this a second thought. She is not always going to be available, and she wasn't your GF.

Ask someone else stop over-thinking this.

Took the words right out of my mouth...seriously, stop taking women so seriously...no offense, by some of you guys act like women...over analyzing, over-thinking, trying to read "signs"...

She may have been busy, call her again if you want to another time...

You can actually call her again, if you want to...I'm not sure if you knew that was possible...:crazy: