Time to Let Go - A Difficult Decision

[quentin]

Hey guys, hope you’re all doing well.
Those who know me will quickly understand what this is about. But for those who haven’t followed, here’s a bit of context: I’m with a girl who’s had quite a few partners despite her young age. It was really good at the beginning, I really like her family, but the more time passes, the less attached I feel. Things are fine, but nothing amazing. I’m getting bored. We barely sleep together anymore, on top of that…
Anyway, those who know me know I’ve made my decision — I need to end it, both for her and for me. The only thing is, I don’t want to hurt her too much, and her family has been really great to me. So if any of you have advice, I’m all ears.
Catch you later, guys.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@quentin "I’m with a girl who’s had quite a few partners despite her young age"

She's draped head to toe in a red flag, in other words... As you admit, you need to end this or both of your sakes, and sweating hurting her too much is unnecessary:

You'll both be far more damaged by continuing to drag this entire affair out

 

[Travel memoir21]

Hey guys, hope you’re all doing well.
Those who know me will quickly understand what this is about. But for those who haven’t followed, here’s a bit of context: I’m with a girl who’s had quite a few partners despite her young age. It was really good at the beginning, I really like her family, but the more time passes, the less attached I feel. Things are fine, but nothing amazing. I’m getting bored. We barely sleep together anymore, on top of that…
Anyway, those who know me know I’ve made my decision — I need to end it, both for her and for me. The only thing is, I don’t want to hurt her too much, and her family has been really great to me. So if any of you have advice, I’m all ears.
Catch you later, guys.

Let her down gently and end it on good terms where you guys can still be friends.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Let her down gently and end it on good terms where you guys can still be friends.

For what purpose?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Hey guys, hope you’re all doing well.
Those who know me will quickly understand what this is about. But for those who haven’t followed, here’s a bit of context: I’m with a girl who’s had quite a few partners despite her young age. It was really good at the beginning, I really like her family, but the more time passes, the less attached I feel. Things are fine, but nothing amazing. I’m getting bored. We barely sleep together anymore, on top of that…
Anyway, those who know me know I’ve made my decision — I need to end it, both for her and for me. The only thing is, I don’t want to hurt her too much, and her family has been really great to me. So if any of you have advice, I’m all ears.
Catch you later, guys.

The fact that you're getting bored and feeling detached likely has nothing to do with her number of parts (not that a high body count is ever a good thing for a woman). The honeymoon period always comes to an end. The only way a long-term relationship can last is if you start a family and have kids. Otherwise, it is bound to fizzle out.

 

[Lauel]

Let her down gently and end it on good terms where you guys can still be friends.

Maybe I am too extreme here, but he shouldn't be friends with such a girl I think.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Hey guys, hope you’re all doing well.
Those who know me will quickly understand what this is about. But for those who haven’t followed, here’s a bit of context: I’m with a girl who’s had quite a few partners despite her young age. It was really good at the beginning, I really like her family, but the more time passes, the less attached I feel. Things are fine, but nothing amazing. I’m getting bored. We barely sleep together anymore, on top of that…
Anyway, those who know me know I’ve made my decision — I need to end it, both for her and for me. The only thing is, I don’t want to hurt her too much, and her family has been really great to me. So if any of you have advice, I’m all ears.
Catch you later, guys.

Advice: end this as soon as possible, for the sakes of both of you.

She is not your wife or mother of your children. So this should be swift.

I’m getting bored

Entertainmentmaxxing for “gf’s and bf’s” is a very recent expectation in human history.

 

[Clockwerk50]

There are 4 ways to break up with someone:

• Give so much attention that it becomes overwhelming. If you’re constantly around and overly attached, the other person may lose interest and choose to end the relationship themselves.
  
  
• Say that work, travel, or other responsibilities are taking you in a different direction. Keep things positive and calm. You could plan one nice final date so the relationship ends on a good memory rather than a bitter one. Example below- Spoiler for F1 ending movie scene -
  
  
• Instead of giving long explanations or over-apologizing, clearly say that you want to end the relationship. Keep it straightforward and respectful so both of you can move on quickly.
  
  
• Start to create distance and become inattentive. Take longer to reply to messages, see them less often, forget shared routines, cancel plans, and gradually reduce effort. Over time, this may lead them to end the relationship.

Number 1 and 4 are ideal if you don’t have the nerve, or if separating from them feels too messy and difficult, since she will eventually break up with you. Number 2 is ideal if you want to keep a harem. Number 3 is if it is better to end the relationship quickly and cleanly rather than drag it out with explanations, guilt, and prolonged pain.

 

[quentin]

@quentin "I’m with a girl who’s had quite a few partners despite her young age"

She's draped head to toe in a red flag, in other words... As you admit, you need to end this or both of your sakes, and sweating hurting her too much is unnecessary:

You'll both be far more damaged by continuing to drag this entire affair out

You're right, I know...

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Think about it this way, she may be relieved if you were to say "Hey, I've been thinking lately about how things have been going, or not going rather. I think we'd both be more comfortable moving on and looking back on the good memories we shared. Thanks and well wishes." Then you lose her number or block if you have to. If she's not going to try to drag it out or argue about it or ask you 20 questions, maybe don't block her on everything, just the number.

Some ladies breathe a sigh of relief (best case) while others will all of the sudden start to obsess (worst case scenario) over you. Every aspect of your life will be criticized unless you 'discover the error of your ways and get back with her' (DON'T!) and apologize profusely. Again, don't do that. In my experience, blocking is way easier after the discussion is over.

If you don't want to feel guilty, just think of all the petty reasons a lady will break it off with a guy. Don't feel bad. If you don't want to be responsible for heartache, well... Let me know if you figure out how to stop that. It's a painful but important lesson to learn. It's important to know both sides of pain sometimes. When you understand it, both from initiating a breakup to being dumped, you'll understand that it's far better to end things as soon as you get the feeling it isn't going to work out or if you're afraid it might not.

In the future, you never know. Such conversations can even save or start a healthy relationship that would have ended due to rigidity when all someone did was make an honest mistake. In your case though, it sounds more like an incompatibility than one person scr3wing something up. ANOTHER reason why you shouldn't allow yourself to be riddled with guilt over it.

As far as the family goes also don't feel bad. If she's had many BFs as it seems to be the case, they're likely not going to be as affected as much as you might think. Plus, they don't (hopefully don't) pay your rent and they've got their own lives to live.

 

[RangerMIke]

I need to end it, both for her and for me. The only thing is, I don’t want to hurt her too much, and her family has been really great to me. So if any of you have advice,...

Don't worry about her, she will be fine. If she is even a little attractive, she'll find another dude quickly... and you will soon be forgotten. Best way to do this is to just do it. Be a man and do it fast and clean. The only advice I can give is don't just ghost her... that's weak @ss BS. A relationship breakup for a man is very different for a woman. She'll get on the phone with friends, and they will all run you down and a stupid dog that never deserved her anyway... she'll hop on a dating ap and have hundreds of dudes tossing their d1cks at her.

 

[Gamisch]

For what purpose?

For the purpose of being the cuck that most men apparently wish to be?

I don't get it neither. Where does one even find the time to spend on an ex. Let alone money and attention- energy.

The funny thing is that eventually she'll move on, rub it in his face and ends up ghosting him completely.