Time to eject out of the relationship?

[ss802]

Next month would be our 1 year anniversary. I don't know what's going on, and I'm hoping experienced guys who have been in relationships can help me out with.

In the beginning (I know what you're thinking :rock: ), she'd be available all the time, and she'd want to to do whatever I wanted to do. Fast forward to 2-3 months ago. Whenever I want to do something, she would say she's all up for it, but when the day comes, she'd have some kind of excuse. We'd hang out, but we don't end up doing whatever was planned.

Also, whenever we're together, I don't sense she's really there. I don't know why she just doesn't tell me she doesn't want to do x,y and z or doesn't want to hang out whatever day. When I talk to her about this, she's all there again and willing to do anything. Then after a few days, she's back to normal. She constantly tells me she loves me.

She just seems distant. I know she's not busy, because I know her schedule. My schedule is 3x more packed than hers, and I'm cool with it. So I can't imagine anyone with her schedule to be "busy."

I don't know what to think. Am I just being too picky? Or is this a sign that she's losing interest? Just wondering if this is something I could salvage or let go.

 

[Dr. Know]

Re-read your post. Be honest with yourself. Listen to your inner-voice; it is seldom wrong.

 

[DonGorgon]

yup its been done you are just in denial...lol

 

[DonJuanit0]

Have you ever tried talking with her?!? Simple as that...

After you talk then come back here and share what she replied...

 

[DonJuanit0]

yup its been done you are just in denial...lol

I wouldn't disagree if I had the girl infront of me and see bymyself what he means by saying "she is not there"! I would suggest talking to her first and then react...

 

[OamImrsNemo]

Read this I feel like this would help you out.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134995

Also display some more dominance don't give her an options to choose from so she can be like this..actually that.never mind how about that one.. Make the bedroom more exciting too probably wouldn't hurt. But I think its salvagable just need to be the alpha role you are suppposed to have. Start pulling back also making your guys time together more valuable.

 

[Desdinova]

Listen to a woman's actions. They will tell you what's really going on.

Women will say they love you out of habit, or to keep your suspitions at bay. If her words don't match her actions, she is lying.

 

[Igetit!]

Next month would be our 1 year anniversary. I don't know what's going on, and I'm hoping experienced guys who have been in relationships can help me out with.

In the beginning (I know what you're thinking :rock: ), she'd be available all the time, and she'd want to to do whatever I wanted to do. Fast forward to 2-3 months ago. Whenever I want to do something, she would say she's all up for it, but when the day comes, she'd have some kind of excuse. We'd hang out, but we don't end up doing whatever was planned.

Yeah,a girl giving you excuse after excuse whenevevr you try to spend time with her is a classic sign of low or declining interest.

When I talk to her about this, she's all there again and willing to do anything. Then after a few days, she's back to normal.

This low/decling interest she has CAN'T BE FIXED by just "having a talk" with her because the problem (on her part) is that she has an EMOTIONAL NEED that's not being met.



The ONLY THING that will resolve this is for you to simply meet the need.



Trying to fix this by having a "talk" is like trying to drive a car that's out of gas. You can talk to the car and tell it how important it is that you get to the places you need to go,wash it,put new tires on it,you can do and say anything you want,but unless you put gas in it,unless THE NEED is met,it's not going anywhere.

She constantly tells me she loves me.

Hmm.

Has she just recently started doing this,or has she done this for the entire length of the relationship?


If it's just started more recently,then you might be wise to listen to Desdinova's council.

I don't know what to think. Am I just being too picky? Or is this a sign that she's losing interest?

Sounds like low interest to me. You say that she repeatedly gives you excuses when you try to see her,and that's one sign,but how are things as far as sex is concerned?

Is she still into it,or does she come up for reasons to avoid the bedroom as well? Because if she does,AND she keeps on flaking when you try to see her,then you've got a problem on your hands.

Just wondering if this is something I could salvage or let go.

Well if you want to move on,then just move on,but as long as she's still there,as long as she has some interest.....even if it's low,this IS salvageable,but the change will have to begin with YOU.


You'll have to alter some things in yourself,or to better put it,you'll need to RETURN to some things that you unknowingly let slip since the start of the relationship.



Check out this thread. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=156533


Don't worry man,it's not 5000 pages of replies to read,and you don't have to read the whole thing.

Just skip down to reply number 14 and have a look at it. It you want to salvage this thing,it'll tell you EXACTLY what to do.