Time to change

[mangalho]

Hi everyone.
I feel the time has come to make some changes regarding my life.
For a few months now I've been trying to step up my social life, get to know more people, get busy in it's true sense.I recently moved to another school, so, clean sheet, and I want to make the best of it.
As you can imagine, there are now dozens of people to meet.
My problem with that is that I have quite a hard time making friends. I have a strong personality, or so I'm told, and among some older friends I'm a mildly funny dude, thing is, when talking to people I don't know very well or at all, I feel so damn uptight, it's unbeliavebly un-confortable.
Possibly related to that is my sense of humor and personality go down the drain, I have a tough time making conversation and making anyone laugh. A litlle bit more confidence wouldn't hurt me.
If I were a character in a movie or book and I was watching or reading it, I'd think my character was boring, uptight, possibly predictable. My body language also sucks, my facial expressions get limited... a disaster. I think this can be solved if I leard how to - bond - properly. Well, hope you guys can give me a hand over here.

edit: I have some interests, but they are kinda hard to talk about and not too common around here. I think I can talk about a decent variety of subjects, but who here goes up to someone they barely know and say " Hey, what about that Picasso huh? "

 

[Muphaser]

what picasso? Where? See the bible it'll get your confidence up

 

[Smooth Player 056]

I assume your in HS, an easy way to make friends is by getting to know one classmate in your class reletively well. Once you have, ask him where he chills at lunch. THen you will be introduced to his group of friends.

There are also may good posts about making friends just go up to the search button at the top...and youll find what you need to know

 

[Smooth Player 056]

my bad....my computer froze and i guess it tripple posted by accident

 

[Smooth Player 056]

my bad....my computer froze and i guess it tripple posted by accident

 

[.illadelph]

i was once in the same boat as you, minus the new school. "i had to get off the boat, so i could walk on water"

as jay-z said, it was time to tread new settings. i realized it was time to make change. it's great that you are now taking the time to make those changes to better your life.

here's some friendly advice.

if you can drive, go places. hit up the local malls, supermarkets, or schools. look for places with a lot of other people to interact with. the chances for conversation is unlimited.

since your'e in a a new school, it's an old beginning. u don't want to start it the same as your old schoool. u want everything to be fresh. no one will be judging you, so during lunch, find a group of friendly looking people of whom you'd like to meet and just sit with them. tel them you're to the school. i f y'all share similar interests, you're set.

like smoothplayer said, get to know one person in each class better from the rest. it'll help abundantly, especially when it comes time for group work.

other than that, i commend you on your decision to make the changes ,for that is half the battle. it's now time to execute, branch out and explore new horizons. step it up, big.

 

[mangalho]

Thanks everyone. The bible is on top of my priorities, hope I can find some straight to the point answers regarding my questions there. No, I don't, too young to drive in this country.
Anyway, I'd like to tell this stuff that happened to me, but I wasn't sure if I should open a new thread, so here it goes:
Last friday I had my first class with a certain new teacher, and like 10 minutes into it I notice a hb7, hottest girl in the room, looking at me and smiling, almost laughing... I tought she was just laughing at something the theacher said, or was just being really friendly, so I smiled back... obviously.
Well, there and then I decided to go and talk to her after class. Later I noticed the theacher had prostetic hands, and she kept smiling for all that time, and I thought... damn, this b* is laughing at the poor man, now I'm definately gonna talk to her. Class ends, she is waiting at the door !!! She says... yes, those are prostetic hands, and he has a glass eye too. I was like... yeah, I noticed, small talk for a couple minutes, after all she wasn't poking fun at him, she just taught it was funny for other people... I guess... turns out she had class with him last year and really liked him... asked if I'd like her to bring some of his quizzes... That ended with her: I have this and that and that ( classes ) and me : do you have a name ? ( she was like... huh ? for 1/10 second and then said it smiling.
Today ( monday ) first class ends, she's like... are you coming too ? Yeah, sure, some talk about the teacher we just met etc... then I ask what was there to do in the breaks ( do you call intermissions that ?? ) and she was like... Well, I can introduce you to my friends... yeah, sure
I get there, hand shake a couple guys, a bunch of hb come along, she gets distracted, doesn't introduce anyone else I'm left in the midlle with the guys looking at a maxim mag and acting like they were 10. Crummy... cya later.After another class, as we are leaving for lunch I comment : nice glasses ( reading ) you got there... and she looks at me like : idiot... but says.. yeah, right. I say: no, really. Her: Of course they are ... or maybe not... she looks kinda pissed, too bad. Later we chat a bit more, and I'm just standing there with her friends ( all guys ) watching them talk. I noticed, none of them pays her much attention, but she kino's most of them like hell, not to mention constant smiling during classes.