quick question, going out with a girl a week (intense, min 5 hours each day, slpet together etc. Shes reahced that time, do I stay well clear or 'comfort her'. She doesn't mind what I do, but shes says I'd have to look after her
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.