"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Time Management

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This may come easy for some, and seem like a boulder in the way of their success for others. What are your time management suggestions? How do you manage your time? What's your schedule like? Just wondering you know...I go home, usually do some homework, eat and check sosuave. Then I do homework some more and work out until I'm done. After that I take a shower, finish up homework and sleep. I waste a lot of time between that though. Like I spend too much time here or I might go check out some random newspaper article or watch TV for too long when I'm running.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well I probably have an undiagnosed form of OCD, but I generally give myself a fairly rigid schedule. I even estemiate how long it will take to do HW assigments and then plan my schedule around that estimate. There's no real point to this point to this post honestly, I'm curious about this myself actually, but I noticed your thread needed to be bumped up. So here you go
 

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Yo thanks for the bump. What I'm going to do is try to get a lot of work done during my study periods at school and lunch break. There aren't many distractions there (besides hot chicks who rub against me and all you know...) and I can focus (when tits/ass aren't in my face).

I tried writing how long it'd take me to do assignments and all, but it didn't really work out because I always took longer. I think I will try to get away from the computer. I believe that is key. Then afte 21 days or rwhatever I'll be cured like a piece of ham.

Thanks for the bump.
 

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I'm not sure where I've read this before, but apparently some guy wrote a book saying that you get 80% of your effective/efficient work done in 20% of the time you actually do the work.

So essentially he is saying you should work less, but how to work more efficiently.

But yeah, I tend to use "free time" (ie. driving, sitting on the train, on the toilet, etc) to read something useful. I've managed to finish up all my college assignments while sitting on the train, and in the toilet.
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That's not a problem for me since I, in fact, have a time machine.
 
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Brian Tracy has an awesome program for this. Simply called "How to Master Your Time". This program answers all the questions around time management I've come up with myself so far as well as all the questions Ive heard so far from other people.

Time is the scarcest recource for sure.
 
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