"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Time for Attract and Qualify

Jamal

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Just what to let you guys know that this site is awesome and has helped me a lot and monday im goin back to school and ready to meet some hot chicks. The last quick question that I need to know is how long is it good to do the Attraction and Qualification stage in HS. It is recommended that the attraction stage should be 2-10 minutes and the qualification stage the same. But im asking you guys...how long would you do each stage??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I wouldn't focus on the amount of time it takes but quality of the attraction and how extensive your qualification criteria. A lot of guys will qualify by just two things;
  1. Is she attractive
  2. Is she interested
This is why guys get hooked up with women they deem as psycho. No, you don't need to get their psychological medical history but come on, it takes more than a pair of nice tits in order to tell whether a woman is a game player.
 

Snow Plowman

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This isn't linear nor is it any time frame...

This stuff comes down to calibration and should also be mixed around depending on the situation.

If the chick already has her attention on you, giggling and still standing and interacting with you then attraction is already done. In this case there isn't much stuff needed to be done as far as attraction go.

If the chick was locked up and being very unresponsive, you'd be in attraction and could end up being in attraction for hours depending on how unresponsive she is. Though most guys will eject 2mins after they realize she's unresponsive because they don't like what's going on in the set.

If a chick was already attracted you could skip attraction and just qualify a chick, most chicks who I know is already attracted...(Seems to be every chick lately) I always qualify them right off the opener.

For me it's all about not overgaming and always moving the set forward. To do attraction stuff when you've already got attraction is an overkill and will push the set backwards. Thats not to say you can't do attraction stuff, it just means use it when it's needed.
 

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Thanks a lot for the reply "Snow Plowman"... I think that is the best answer I needed.
 
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