Time for a Postmortem

[MisterMike]

So I was out on vacation staying with a friend. Long story short her roommate begins flirting with me, watching horror movies, snuggling etc. She just got out of something so I wasn't planning to really do anything with. On the last day before I leave she suddenly begins avoiding me like the plague, so eventually I ask her what the deal is because we were supposed to go get dinner. During this conversation, I never got upset or really showed any negative emotion, but she was treating me weird like I was threatening her even though I never went near her without asking if it was alright. Afterward, I went to the bed where I was sleeping and she came out and said it was too uncomfortable and she was going to stay with a friend. So I left then she unfriended me on Facebook then blocked me like 4 days later. I'm wondering what I did to deserve this? Thoughts?

 

[derby1]

She would lie if you asked her anyway as women dont like confrontation

Move on , dont contact her again

 

[MisterMike]

I think that's part of the problem because if everyone just moves on then it basically women get complete freedom from accountability and reality?

 

[derby1]

You gave her the opportunity to talk like an Adult, on the night it seems?

She has shown her true drama colours , you now walk away this is because you are a man with self respect

If like you say ...shes over reacted or gone weird....you've dodged a bullet

The second you initiate any contact with her, she knows she has you ,

Get more women

 

[devilkingx2]

So I was out on vacation staying with a friend. Long story short her roommate begins flirting with me, watching horror movies, snuggling etc. She just got out of something so I wasn't planning to really do anything with. On the last day before I leave she suddenly begins avoiding me like the plague, so eventually I ask her what the deal is because we were supposed to go get dinner. During this conversation, I never got upset or really showed any negative emotion, but she was treating me weird like I was threatening her even though I never went near her without asking if it was alright. Afterward, I went to the bed where I was sleeping and she came out and said it was too uncomfortable and she was going to stay with a friend. So I left then she unfriended me on Facebook then blocked me like 4 days later. I'm wondering what I did to deserve this? Thoughts?

I'm confused.

Who unfriended and blocked you and went to go stay with a friend, your friend or your friend's roommate?

Assuming it's the roommate you're talking about all the way through, I'd wager your friend sabotaged you hardcore and said something about you that made you look bad.

A friend of mine and a loud mouthed girl told this other girl that i was talking to at a party about me kissing a girl at the last party i was at, but they made it sound like that last girl was my girlfriend and hooking up with slvts at parties was my MO

Naturally the girl i was talking to thought i was a total creep and was completely closed off to me the whole time

My friend then told me that it was clearly because i came on too strong and shouldn't creep out the girls at his parties. (yes, the same friend who was telling her that i had a girlfriend that i cheat on at parties basically)

Another guy told a story of a female friend that told all his plates about all his other plates so that they would all dump him.

 

[MisterMike]

Derby1, there are women that aren't dramatic? Is there anyone out there that could turn this around? Is there anyone who understands enough to win the unwinnable scenarios?

DevilKing, It was my friend's roommate who left. No, it wasn't my friend, I know only because they were having it out while this was going on, my friend was understandably pretty pissed.

 

[devilkingx2]

DevilKing, It was my friend's roommate who left. No, it wasn't my friend, I know only because they were having it out while this was going on, my friend was understandably pretty pissed.

Whenever something a woman does makes no sense, seems random and has no explanation, it most likely means another guy was involved.

Since your friend was mad too it was probably something petty or stupid or just a d!ck move. So perhaps she is just flakey and lost interest for no reason, perhaps her ex came back or she met a cuter guy, perhaps her husband/boyfriend was getting suspicious of her indiscretions, etc.

 

[sazc]

DevilKing, It was my friend's roommate who left. No, it wasn't my friend, I know only because they were having it out while this was going on, my friend was understandably pretty pissed.

It was your friends room mate? Did you ask your friend what her issue was?

You say your friend and she "were having it out while this was going on?" What were they fighting about? Is it possible you were a casually of that argument? That she decided to punish you because you are his friend?

As far as "are there any not dramatic women?" Yes, I am a non dramatic woman. I can tell you first hand, guys don't like non dramatic women. They like women who bring the drama. They say they don't want drama, but it appears as if they don't know what to do with a female who isn't dramatic.

They absolutely determine your interest level by the amount of drama you bring. No drama, no neediness, no complaints? He believes she's not rrally interested. Men judge the emotional investment, of the female in them, based on drama occuring.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Lol this happened to me with a chick at work. I think it’s because while she was giving you all the signs and hints, you weren’t moving fast enough for her. Did you escalate to something more than just snuggling or no?

 

[devilkingx2]

As far as "are there any not dramatic women?" Yes, I am a non dramatic woman. I can tell you first hand, guys don't like non dramatic women. They like women who bring the drama. They say they don't want drama, but it appears as if they don't know what to do with a female who isn't dramatic.

They absolutely determine your interest level by the amount of drama you bring. No drama, no neediness, no complaints? He believes she's not rrally interested. Men judge the emotional investment, of the female in them, based on drama occuring.

@sazc
There's an episode of how i met your mother where ted talks about what he didn't like about dating robin is that he doesn't feel needed or important, she's a woman who can take care of herself (there's skits of her killing spiders herself, a knock downstairs in the night and she grabs her rifle and is like "i got this", etc.)

On the other hand, there's barney, the resident player of that show, he loved that about her, that she was self sufficient and independant so they could focus on having fun and chilling without him needing to take care of her or anything.

Basically, if you go too far in the opposite direction, guys who operate from a provider frame will feel like they don't matter since you don't need anything from them at all, more alpha male types of guys will appreciate you acting like a grownup and not needing a babysitter

The balanced solution would be to dial up the neediness to a reasonable extent,

I think most guys are more used to girls who are insecure wrecks when they care and only chill when they don't.

 

[devilkingx2]

Chicks love drama. If they don’t get it from their friends, shows, etc they’ll make the shlt up out of nothing

Liking drama makes sense, liking drama in your own life is ****ing bizarre. Some women are weird as hell.

It's always nice to see a fight or hear about a feud or other kinds of drama, its not nice when that drama is your problem

 

[MisterMike]

It was your friends room mate? Did you ask your friend what her issue was?

You say your friend and she "were having it out while this was going on?" What were they fighting about? Is it possible you were a casually of that argument? That she decided to punish you because you are his friend?

As far as "are there any not dramatic women?" Yes, I am a non dramatic woman. I can tell you first hand, guys don't like non dramatic women. They like women who bring the drama. They say they don't want drama, but it appears as if they don't know what to do with a female who isn't dramatic.

They absolutely determine your interest level by the amount of drama you bring. No drama, no neediness, no complaints? He believes she's not rrally interested. Men judge the emotional investment, of the female in them, based on drama occuring.

They were fighting about me. She wouldn't shut up to my friend about me. My friend was justifiably upset for me.

 

[MisterMike]

Lol this happened to me with a chick at work. I think it’s because while she was giving you all the signs and hints, you weren’t moving fast enough for her. Did you escalate to something more than just snuggling or no?

Well, I live across the country so I wasn't really looking for anything from her but just some much-needed positivity. I've had a very rough go of it for a long time so I wasn't looking to rock the boat.

 

[dude99]

So I was out on vacation staying with a friend. Long story short her roommate begins flirting with me, watching horror movies, snuggling etc. She just got out of something so I wasn't planning to really do anything with. On the last day before I leave she suddenly begins avoiding me like the plague, so eventually I ask her what the deal is because we were supposed to go get dinner. During this conversation, I never got upset or really showed any negative emotion, but she was treating me weird like I was threatening her even though I never went near her without asking if it was alright. Afterward, I went to the bed where I was sleeping and she came out and said it was too uncomfortable and she was going to stay with a friend. So I left then she unfriended me on Facebook then blocked me like 4 days later. I'm wondering what I did to deserve this? Thoughts?

No thoughts are worth trying to figure this out.

Crazy biatch.

Next.

 

[Roober]

Women are weird and emotional creatures. It's another guy or she sees you as a friend type and you crossed the line.

Whatever happened, your chance (if you had one) is gone. Move on.

 

[MisterMike]

Women are weird and emotional creatures. It's another guy or she sees you as a friend type and you crossed the line.

Whatever happened, your chance (if you had one) is gone. Move on.

It's sorta strange to cross a line by standing still.

 

[Macaframalama]

She just got out of something so I wasn't planning to really do anything with.

Why not? Especially, after this...

Long story short her roommate begins flirting with me, watching horror movies, snuggling etc.

I'm wondering what I did to deserve this?

Rejected her advances with your actions, or inactions, like this...

I never went near her without asking if it was alright.

Thoughts?

She was on the rebound and wanted to fvck. She felt rejected and maybe creeped out and took it out on you. Nice guy finishes last scenario.

 

[Macaframalama]

Well, I live across the country so I wasn't really looking for anything from her but just some much-needed positivity

So was she. Like your penis in her vagina kind of positivity.

I've had a very rough go of it for a long time so I wasn't looking to rock the boat.

You should have.