Time between first and second dates

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don Juan

Jun 30, 2016

Is there an ideal number of days? A length of time when if exceeded, it becomes very unlikely for anything to happen?

Traditional advice says that you need to restart from square one if you've let enough time pass for the emotional momentum to fade... but then I also hear a lot about it being good to maintain mystery and intrigue by not setting things up too soon or too eagerly.

Is there a general rule of thumb?
1 day too soon, 2 weeks too far? 2-6 days ideal?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.