Time between first and second dates

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don Juan

Jun 30, 2016

Is there an ideal number of days? A length of time when if exceeded, it becomes very unlikely for anything to happen?

Traditional advice says that you need to restart from square one if you've let enough time pass for the emotional momentum to fade... but then I also hear a lot about it being good to maintain mystery and intrigue by not setting things up too soon or too eagerly.

Is there a general rule of thumb?
1 day too soon, 2 weeks too far? 2-6 days ideal?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.