"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Alright, well I 've been thinking about doing this for awhile now and decided to try it out and take some advice from the fellas on here.
So here is my situation right now: I am pretty comfortable around girls at school and outside of school. I just have a hard time breaking to the next level of hanging out to making out. I can get girls to go out just not finish the night off.
My other problem is approaching new girls, it takes me awhile to build up a good friendly or playful relationship and I don't really have the confidence to walk up to some random hot girl and talk to her.
Tomorrow though I'm going to try to talk to this hot senior. I'm a junior by the way.
So I'm going to try and keep up with this everyday or so and all advice, questions and harsh criticism is welcome
Thanks Tiesto
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Action comes before confidence.
The way I broke thru that plateu was telling the girl I was with "I really wanna kiss you right now". Anything will do if she likes you.
 
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Today school was hectic because of some testing thing going on. I didn't get to talk to that hot girl I mentioned before...didn't even see her today so I can't blame myself.
I've been texting this other girl and its gotten really awkward.
I feel like I friend-zoned her if that makes any sense. It seems that she wants to be more than just friends, but I really don't feel it. She is pretty hot so I would definitely hook up with her, but it seems impossible to do without becoming a couple.
Has anyone has any experience in this...would telling her straight up that I'm not really looking for a girlfriend, but more of a girl to mess around with?
Need some help
 
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Just go for it. You're not bf/gf before one of you ask the other. If it goes that far, just tell her you don't want a relationship. You can still date.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Pussied out today with the hot senior today when I saw her...pretty pissed about it in retrospect. I'll go for it tomorrow hopefully.
I'll try to just straight up tell the girl, but I'll let her text me first hahaha
 
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Anybody have any confidence boosters or some advice on an opener?
Hopefully by tonight talking to her this week would really boost my morale at this point.
I'll start with names right now.
So the girl who I friendzoned is HB7 Ash and the other girl who I want to approach is HB8 Ann.

More background is for a while this one girl HB6 Leasha was texting me all the time and it really gave me perspective. She seemed so desperate at this point. I was sort of a **** to her sometimes, but she still kept at it. Now though she moved on the one of my buddies and she seems way hotter now. So now I finally understand why being desperate is so unattractive.
I don't want to do that to my friend by talking to her again, but they are not official or anything.
Any opinions
 
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Well today was a pretty good day. Still wimped out to talk to HB Ann although I hate saying it there's always tomorrow.
I'm in a mainly senior history class, but the girls in there lack looks. There are two though that are always talking to me and telling me how "adorable" I am and it gets to me for some reason. I don't know why girls only a year older call me that, but no other girls can. It seems like they try to belittle me a bit. They are both around HB5, but they both seem like a freak in bed, if you guys know those type of girls.
Anybody know how to deal with girls like this. Its hard to pull some of my go to stuff because I feel they have the upperhand because they are older and more experienced with sex and what not.
Any advice on what to do with any of my problems
 
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Well the one girl in my history class who is a senior told me she wanted to hook up so this is a huge step for me. I just don't know how to go about it especially because we both want to keep it on the down low and I'm busy as hell right now. She also has another friend who I think might be into just hooking up with anyone. So I'm excited about that because she is hotter than the other girl.
They both lack a little in the face department, but they both have nice bodies and I have no reason to complain.
HB Ash has texted me a few times and told me she thought I was cute but I'm having trouble trying to play it out because she seems kind of prude.
Advice needed
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just outright go for it, its not a big deal :)
Just do SOMETHING, it will usually give you good results.
 
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Yeah I know man
I make it seem much harder than it is
I think once I can get past this, I'll suprise myself
 
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one thing that has helped me a lot is to not think too much about doing something with a girl but just do it out of an impulse..
 
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Evil Agenda explain that theory

One of those girls who "belittles" me told me I was cute and that she was interested after we started talking it got heavy and I'm expecting something great to happen soon.
Wish me luck boys
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Totally lost right now.
So the girl I mentioned before flat out said she wants to hook up with me. For some reason my game is totally thrown off now. I can barely talk to her for some reason.
Anyone else get this freeze up when they know they no longer have to try, but the girl still wants to talk?
 
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That's exactly what I did man, went straight for it.
She said she wants to talk more and get to know me.
I just can't talk to her for some reason. I'm just itching to hook up and I'm just left speechless
 
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Trying to juggle three girls is tough as hell.
One wants to just hook up
the other girl is on the edge of saying that
One i think wants a relationship.

Advice needed
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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