"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tickets question

thedeparted

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Went out with an HB7 couple of times. This girl is an actress and occasional model, mid 20s. She is also fairly intelligent. I enjoy her company but don't have any other interest in her for now. So I have treated her like a friend.

Anyway, we have a date for next weekend, but she just emailed me to offer me tickets to a concert. She says "you don't have to take me if you don't want to" and says she might be too tired from work that day to go anyway. However, I know she loves live shows.

So, I said "thanks for the tix" and nothing more. I figure I can always invite her later. But my question is, what kind of test is this? (assuming it is one)

I mean, she could have simply invited me to the concert if she wanted to go with me. Or she could have invited any other guy if she didn't and I would never know.

Possibilities:

1. She's too chicken to ask me out directly, so this is the chick way of doing it

2. She wants to see if I would take somebody else instead of her

3. She is just reciprocating the nice stuff I did for her and being a good friend

4. She wants to keep things "even" so she doesn't owe me "anything"

Anyway, what's the DJ way to play it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PrinceBeavis

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She's probably feeling very underwhelmed by your lack of interest, and figures it's just as well to stay home, than to go and not be pursued.
 

thedeparted

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Update

Apparently there is an after-party involved. So I need to give the name of my guest to the organizer. Now what do you guys think?
 

thedeparted

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dopexile said:
personally I think it'd be freakin hillarious to go with some other chick... ha ha
yeah, me too :D
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Here's my take. Who cares? Take the tickets. If you take someone else and piss her off, who cares, your a talented guy, she isn't your only plate, you've got other options.

Have fun and live life.

Or there is the other side, if you really like her, then don't take the tickets at all, if it is indeed a test, don't get sucked in, simply don't take them, let her do something with them, its not your problem.
 
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