"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Threads about number of guys she's been with?

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Colossus said:
I disagree here. I think what's going on is an internal moral conflict. At face value, if a guy learns a woman has slept with 30, 40 + guys, she is simply a slut. But when he LIKES a woman and learns this information about her later on, that context makes the news rather disturbing. Not only does he have to accept he has fallen for a slut, but it also devalues her affection for him---in other words we like to think her affection for us is somewhat novel and she hasn't doled it out to dozens of other men. Most normal men could not allow themselves to like a woman who has exceeded his own threshold of slutty-ness...whatever that number is. When knowledge of this breach reaches him AFTER desire has been firmly established, there is a major conflict going on that most men cannot reconcile.
YEs, That is is the explanation that makes sense to me. ^^
Finding out ( one revelation at a time) that the women with whom whom you have entered an LTR was not the neo virgin that she portrayed herself to be, but was a cheating c0ck hopper in her past , is real hard to take .

Been there- never again
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Danger said:
Personally, I find it extremely insulting that a woman would recklessly c0ck hop before deciding that she wants to give me her tore up leftovers.
"..tore up leftovers." Ha ha ..IT is fascinating that women who have slept with a LOT of guys still regard their vagiina as some kind of awesome ultimate commodity even though it has had 30 previous temporary owners.
It is as if they still give it the value of a glittering diamond that never loses it's market value.
Delusional ?
 
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